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Watching my little one with my phone tonight made me so sad

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bloodywhitecat · 28/06/2022 21:59

He is 2, tonight he had my phone and was desperately waving at DH's photo which is my home screen picture. He kept waving then poking the photo. I think he is waiting for DH to wave back, he is used to video calling DH but that all stopped in late Feb when DH died. DH had been in hospital after a stroke and came home non verbal and with very limited mobility so LO was used to not hearing DH speak at the end. Now, every night when I take him up to his bed he goes to the window and waves to "Day", this is what he called DH (we are his foster carers so DH wasn't his dad), then he waves to me and gets into his bed. Every day I try to explain that "Day" isn't coming home, that he's died but it means little to one so young.

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LovinglifeAF · 28/06/2022 22:01

Gosh. How tragic I don’t really know what to say x

Dobbysgotthesocks · 28/06/2022 22:05

I'm so so sorry for your loss. I have no advice but didn't want to read and run.

cestlavielife · 28/06/2022 22:06

Speak to winstons wish or other child bereavement charity get advice
Sorry for your loss
Maybe just keep waving at him and aCknowledge "day" .

Squiff70 · 28/06/2022 22:10

Sending you and your little one(s) a huge hug. I can't even imagine your pain. Maybe there are things you can do together to remember 'Day'?

Hellocatshome · 28/06/2022 22:11

I'm no expert but if he is happy waving at his photo or out the window to 'day' I would just let him for the time being as heartbreaking as it must be for you. He will come to realise that 'day' won't physically be there anymore soon enough.

WeepyNsleepy · 28/06/2022 22:17

I'm so sorry!!

Diversion · 28/06/2022 22:22

Poor little lad, he must miss his Day so much. Thinking of your loss too and how it will feel when he moves on to his forever home/new parents. Please get some support for yourself as you will have experienced double the loss and the two will be forever linked. Sending much love to you both.

Mariposista · 28/06/2022 22:32

Very very sad. Could you print him a lovely phot of his Dad to have on his bedside table? That way he can chat to daddy and tell him about his day, and keep him very much present? Keep strong OP

sjxoxo · 28/06/2022 22:41

Oh ❤️ I’m so sorry for your loss. He is obviously missed dearly. A big picture of Day is a lovely idea. Best wishes to you op & your little one xxxx

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