Childminding and mental health

[Bestkindaparty]

Posting for a friend as we can't seem to find anything online
My friend is interested in becoming a childminder. However she is worried because her 14 year old ds has adhd and poor mental health (self harm/depression etc.) He can also be violent when she tries to discipline him.
He is in school with extra support there. Would this prevent her from registering as a childminder?

I don’t know if it would prevent her from doing it but it sounds like it could be very unfair on her son.

would he cope with the extra noise and people in his home?

what would she do if he came home from school frustrated?

could she keep everyone safe?

I have a 13 year old who is very similar it sounds and it would be unfair on him.

She has the same concerns tbh. She can't commit to other jobs in case he comes home from school so childminding is something she hopes to do as she's at home.
She is exploring other wfh options but nfortunately isn't having much luck

I'd probably only childmind during the school day when he wasn't there to be honest but that does limit her - as a parent who uses childminders i wouldn't be comfortable putting my own young children in that situation sorry

Realistically no one is going to use a service where there's a violent teenager, think about it logically.

And who would insure her given that to be the case?

There is no way she should be a childminder. Even if the teenagers violence is inflicted on themselves it’s a huge risk as being around violence is detrimental.

I wouldn't put my child with a childminder who had a male teenager regularly present certainly nota violent. I really feel for your friend but having other children around isn't a good solution

not a violent one

What?

Do you object to males in general?

Or female teenagers?

What's wrong with male teenagers?

On a more practical note has she applied for DLA for him? If she can’t work depending on level she will then be able to get carers allowance. It’s not much but it’s something while she works things out.

I wouldn't put my child in a situation where they could potentially be left alone with an unknown teenager whether it was in a child minders home or not. But this question was around childminding and male teenagers so that's what I answered. You're welcome to leave your children with whoever you like.