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I'm too sensitive

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SoftMallow · 26/06/2022 21:53

I've just seen an awful image on Twitter (I won't say what it was in case it upsets anybody else!) But I am struggling more and more to cope with a growing awareness of the darkness, cruelty and inhumanity in the world. Especially if it involves children. I don't think this is depression, just an awareness. And I can't stomach it. It's worse since I had kids, The world I've brought them into isn't the one I thought it was and I'm worried about what they'll face. It's like I've woken up, but too late. I can't accommodate the barbarity of what really happens with what I thought life was. Does anybody else feel like this?

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KissThaRain · 26/06/2022 21:59

If I’d honestly asked myself is this the world I want to raise my kids in I’d never had had them. My housing estate is shit. Although I used to walk through at night to go to the only pub that served us 17 years old with lager!

but, the reality is the world is lovely (with some crap obviously)

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SoftMallow · 26/06/2022 22:03

I love your attitude about the world being lovely too, I really need to shift my thinking this way. Ironically, I love life, I love the world - that's sort of that makes it harder sometimes!

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SoftMallow · 26/06/2022 22:04

What makes it harder, not that makes it harder Blush

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SoftMallow · 27/06/2022 12:48

Every day made worse by the news and fear of what's to come. It's no way to live and love.

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Caramac555 · 27/06/2022 12:58

You say you don't think this is depression OP but I'd keep an eye on it.

I have had bouts of this usually when I'm depressed. Sometimes this world and the people in it are enough to make you despair.

But then yesterday I was walking with my teenage daughter when she suddenly developed a migraine and had to stop to throw up in the bushes. A random couple walking their dog stopped to see if we were OK because she looked in such a state, and would I manage to get her home.

So there's still hope for mankind yet, there are a lot of good people

Aksbdt · 27/06/2022 13:03

I work in child protection in childrens services and despite what I see I still fully hold the view that most people are good people. If I start heading towards feeling like everything is awful then I rethink what I’m looking at online, tv shows etc, even the threads on here. For a while I paid for a good news paper that I saw recommended as it helps with that perspective

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SoftMallow · 27/06/2022 13:16

Thanks for these replies, it's hard when you feel like this not to get caught up in the news cycle and imagine the worst case scenarios. It's just this overwhelming sense of guilt for what I've brought the children into. Or even just so wanting a different world for them and the anger that a few men can take that away. I just can't get my head around it! But you're so right that at the local level it's possible to see so much good. I would love to make my world small and know we won't be impacted by global events

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Lottsbiffandsmudge · 27/06/2022 13:21

I feel exactly like this. The world is currently a very scary place. I really struggle with the impotence I feel around issues such as Ukraine, climate, cost of living, food shortages etc etc. And I have little faith in world leaders to sort any of it out.
I can't really look beyond next week at the moment.
It's so hard isn't it?
I have stopped reading the paper as I just cannot and I do worry for my DC and the world they will inherit.
I can't offer any advice but just some solidarity?

Lottsbiffandsmudge · 27/06/2022 13:23

And yes I have taken some comfort locally. For instance I have given away a lot of plants I have grown from seed and someone came to tell me how the plants they took were getting on last week. It was so nice!

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SoftMallow · 27/06/2022 13:26

Thank you, it's good to know it's not just me! The truth is, it is reality isn't it? I wish it was just over sensitivity, but it's real life

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Lottsbiffandsmudge · 27/06/2022 13:31

I don't think you are over sensitive. Properly informed maybe and scared (which I think is probably rational tbh!). I have had to retreat to a little bubble to cope. I did that when my DC were small and was accused of being uninformed. I was happier tho! Since covid there has not been much good news.... so I mostly bubble, give a lot in charitable ways, do my v small but for the environment etc and don't read the news.

Lottsbiffandsmudge · 27/06/2022 13:36

A lot of folk also seem consumed by issues that imo are irrelevant when Northern Africa is starving, the world is slowly dying and Russia are out of control. I am not sure it will matter what gender or sexual identity you favour or who wins Love Island or if your holiday is cancelled when any of that shit hits any of those fans.... maybe that's just me..

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SoftMallow · 27/06/2022 13:41

Completely agree

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TheWayoftheLeaf · 27/06/2022 15:02

Without the dark there can be no light ❤️

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