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Best Therapy I’ve Ever Found

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Kris02 · 26/06/2022 14:09

Last year I read an article on something called ‘bibliotherapy’. It’s basically the idea that you can use great literature as therapy. There are even experts who will recommend a specific classic for a specific problem (if you’ve just had a row with your mother in law, for example, try such and such a novel).

Anyway, in the new year I decided to stop reading newspapers, stop watching the news and stop going on social media. Instead, I vowed to read more. I printed off a copy of Harold Bloom’s list of the great books and have been working my way through them. I haven’t enjoyed everything of course. Some books were boring, or difficult, and some I just gave up on (Henry James, Cormac McCarthy and the vile Philip Roth, for example), but my god it really works. If you discipline yourself and make yourself read, it really does comfort and heal you. (Like I said, it takes discipline. I’m a very lazy person, and also quite a slow reader, so it has been an effort.)

So far this year, I have read ‘Pride and Prejudice’, ‘Wuthering Heights’, ‘My Antonia’, ‘Wolf Hall’, ‘Robinson Crusoe’, ‘Brideshead Revisited’ and ‘The Picture of Dorian Grey’. I’ve also been listening to a lot of audiobooks at the same time. Instead of listening to the radio when I drive, I hire CDs from the library. Some novels are perfect for audio. I would massively recommend Stephen Fry reading Sherlock Holmes, and also P G Wodehouse and Douglas Adams. Oh, and Dickens. A good reader (like Martin Jarvis) really brings Dickens to life. Right now, I’ve got Virginia Woolf in the car.

Does anyone else read the classics as a kind of therapy? I’ve even started reading out loud when I’m alone, which is also incredibly therapeutic. Reading P G Wodehouse out loud is probably the single best cure for a low mood that I’ve found.

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whenwillthemadnessend · 26/06/2022 14:13

I don't know about therapy but I listen to books when I'm cleaning or decorating and the time flies so maybe it would work as therapy too.

FloorWipes · 26/06/2022 14:24

I do like the idea.

theoldhasgone · 26/06/2022 15:05

I totally agree. Although I am also in actual therapy - they are not exclusive.

Could you point me to the list?

I can HIGHLY recommend Thandiwe Newton's narration if War and Peace. Just phenomenal. And something like 80 hours of listening to get stuck into.

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martinao · 26/06/2022 15:14

Reading is definitely good for the soul in a way that social media and the news are not.

martinao · 26/06/2022 15:15

theoldhasgone · 26/06/2022 15:05

I totally agree. Although I am also in actual therapy - they are not exclusive.

Could you point me to the list?

I can HIGHLY recommend Thandiwe Newton's narration if War and Peace. Just phenomenal. And something like 80 hours of listening to get stuck into.

Is the War and Peace narration on Amazon/Audible? I keep meaning to get into audiobooks.

Nimblesandbimbles · 26/06/2022 15:16

I found PG Wodehouse great for depression

HollowTalk · 26/06/2022 15:19

Even better is writing a book. Your mind will empty of everything except the novel. It can be very cathartic.

theoldhasgone · 26/06/2022 15:33

Yes, W&P is on Audible. There's also a complete Jane Austen narrated by Alison Larkin that is amazing.

The PG Wodehouse narrated by Stephen Fry is an absolute tonic. So brilliantly funny.

theoldhasgone · 26/06/2022 15:34

Oh, and Marian Keyes narrates some of her own works and they are fantastic listening. Funny and insightful and poignant and everything you need from a book.

Paranoidandroidmarvin · 26/06/2022 16:24

I just read and listen to books. I have limited my time on social media as it is far to depressing and apparently ur not allowed a different opinion to anyone else nowadays.

I mostly read thriller / horror books. So not sure they would do what ur trying to do. But I do find that reading helps keep me calm. Nothing better than listening to a good book on audible. It takes ur mind away.

easyday · 26/06/2022 16:51

Reading just about anything is good - a form of escapism that requires your imagination in a way TV doesn't.
I love reading. My son is 18 and was never in to books - gaming and whatever much more entertaining for him growing up. But in the last year or two he's had a few struggles and complained of being bored of an evening after work and the gym. So I suggested he get a book (I bought him an Ian Rankin one), go for a walk and sit in a field and read a bit. He now does this every evening when the weather's good. And he reads on the bus to and from work. He doesn't live with me but I think it has benefited him. I'm thrilled that he not only did as I suggested, but has developed a love for reading too.

Paranoidandroidmarvin · 26/06/2022 17:42

If u want some light reading and something that will make u chuckle. Try reading the st Mary’s chronicles by Jodi Taylor. I have learnt a lot about history and laughed so much.

ConfusedByDesign · 26/06/2022 17:44

That's amazing op. I love this idea but not with classics. I'd like to see a list of modern books that could be used in the same way.

ShirleyJackson · 26/06/2022 17:51

YY to Wodehouse for depression.

Stella Gibbons’ Cold Comfort Farm for pulling yourself out of a self-indulgent funk.

Shakespeare for a good clear-eyed view of what it is to be human, with all our flaws. That was his genius.

Ann Tyler understands women better than anyone. Read her if you’re middle-aged and want to feel seen.

Keats’ poetry will stop you in your tracks and blow your senses wide apart.

Steinbeck and Dickens for compassion for the less-fortunate, if a little high on melodrama.

Ormally · 29/07/2022 14:13

Sorry I am late, and also if thread etiquette is being breached by joining now.

I found this by searching for Wodehouse.

Depending on your willingness to divert onto the poetry path, I'd add White Ravens, then Skirrid Hill, and To Provide to All People, all by Owen Sheers.

For something darkly cheerful, neither fully comforting nor full existential howl, the play 'Kafka's Dick' by Alan Bennett.

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