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Fleeing domestic violence (DV) treated badly by council

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Reallynoton · 25/06/2022 16:50

This is not about me. But someone I know although I do have close experience.

So this person has been in the process of fleeing DV. She kept phoning the council over and over for around 2 weeks. They made promises to call her back. They never did she had to keep fighting it all the time. They promised her something yesterday. But still nothing by 5pm . They eventually called her at 9pm saying they have a hostel place for and 3 children. So she had to go there. So now she's there . There are cockroaches and no window in the room. The room is so hot as there's no air. And no keys . She chased keys up apparently there's no keys.

I know of woman who flee dv and they have to fight so hard for even basic things. They are treated like they do not matter. Even after a they have been through. I can sort of understand why woman consider going back when they are treated this way.

All the things I have seen about new laws for woman fleeing DV does not mean a thing.

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Reallynoton · 25/06/2022 19:06

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Reallynoton · 26/06/2022 10:12

Oh dear. Really sad that there's not one reply . 😞

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Mangogogogo · 26/06/2022 10:19

This hasn’t been my experience working with DA in the north east.. where are you?

it is shocking though. Does she have a support worker from a charity? Or from the police? Anyone who can advocate for her with an official title?

Reallynoton · 26/06/2022 10:44

Mangogogogo · 26/06/2022 10:19

This hasn’t been my experience working with DA in the north east.. where are you?

it is shocking though. Does she have a support worker from a charity? Or from the police? Anyone who can advocate for her with an official title?

She has a social worker but she won't in leave abd thus windowless place was found then.

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Reallynoton · 26/06/2022 10:46

Reallynoton · 26/06/2022 10:44

She has a social worker but she won't in leave abd thus windowless place was found then.

Sorry very bad typos. I meant to say the windowless place was found whilst her social worker was on leave.

I'm not sure how helpful she is but hope she's helpful with this situation.

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snoochieboochies · 26/06/2022 10:59

Has she been in touch with IDVA? I'm in the NW and was treated brilliantly and got housed within the year, but IDVA were the ones doing it all for me. Domestic Violence Abuse Service in your area is who you need to contact.

picklemewalnuts · 26/06/2022 11:06

That is terrible, and an awful explanation of why women stay.

Bigbadstan · 26/06/2022 11:09

Would she consider refuge? This will be much more suitable. As a victim of DA she can flee to ANY local authority in the UK, so she may be better considering her area choices to find a better result

Bigbadstan · 26/06/2022 11:10

Also she can ask shelter to request a 'review of suitability' of the accommodation offered. This will put a rocket up them x

stayingpositiveifpossible · 26/06/2022 11:30

contact womens aid refuge is much better option

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