I know you can't know, so I guess what I'm asking is how would you be....if you were young men?
DH died just over a year ago. I've spent a year "keeping busy" and have developed quite an active social life with friends old and new, male and female.
DS1 (21yo) is very preoccupied with his GF, seems to be in a good place himself and appears to have barely noticed me.
DS2 (19yo) has really struggled since his father's death, become really insular, barely leaves the house unless he has too. He is a huge concern and I've tried to be there for him, but when I am he doesn't want me around, has nothing to say to me. A few grunts and he goes back to his room. He's recently seen the doctor, has some medication and there is a little glimmer of improvement.
Anyway, I'm quite often getting picked up by a man (I go out with women too and often drive myself, but sometimes a man comes to the house to pick me up). So far, they are just friends, but I'm sure the neighbours' curtains are twitching. DCs though don't seem to have noticed. They never ask where I'm going, who with, who these people are, if I had a nice time etc. Is this just part of being young, they assume mum doesn't have any real life or are they avoiding it?
I'm enjoying myself in-between the sadness, but I'd hate them to think I've moved on from their father because I haven't.