Intense anger, followed by deep depression and stress. Help :(

[brondysan]

As the title says.
The last few days I've found I get so angry I can't control myself. I feel like hurting myself, others.. I feel like lashing out and saying all the very worst most hurtful things possible. I feel like I don't want to be here anymore, and this soon transitions into deep sorrow and depressive thoughts.

I have a lot of transition going on in my life right now. I'm stuck on what to do career wise, I'm not happy in the job department whatsoever. I have a lovely DP who is trying to support me, but his kindness and calmness and rationalisation is making me even more angry. Why?! I don't understand myself right now and I'm actually quite scared of the thoughts I've been having. I don't want to be like this 😢

See your doctor. It could be hormonal.

How old are you? Sounds like peri menopausal me

I don't have any advice to offer but I feel the same way sometimes. Will get really angry, totally fly off the handle but then the worst bit is I feel deeply depressed and have suicidal thoughts after (I don't think I'd actually do anything but it's like a voice in my head) I've always suspected it's hormonal or over stimulation and the depressed part is just for knowing I don't like being angry and finding it hard to handle. I find regular exercise helps, cutting down on sugar and trying to walk away as soon as I start to feel angry and letting it out in a safe place.

Exercise, exercise, exercise. Cardio the fuck out of it.

Just don't do boxing, obvs.

Sounds like you need to take some steps to get out of this job too op. Can you move or retrain?

FFS, not every problem is menopause. Women's feelings no longer exist - they are either menstrual or menopausal

@brondysan - read up on the polyvagal analogy of the traffic ligth and see if it makes any sense to you. You describe a lot of stress/transition.

Could you afford some counselling?

typo: should be traffic LIGHT

I've had anger issues and still do but it's getting better as I'm getting older (32) I find it's when I'm really overwhelmed with life and I just need alone time. I use stress balls and breathing techniques. I have got bad anxiety also with depressive spells so I can really relate.
Everything just gets too much sometimes and sounds like you need a break.
Maybe book some time off work and do something for yourself like a facial or buy yourself new shoes.
Colouring in really help me as well. I colour in on my tablet but I also have an adult colouring book. Really helps my stess levels.
It's to find the motivation sometimes when your in a bad minset but just take some time for yourself.

I'm only 24 so I don't think it's menopause related, but I could be wrong.

I feel extremely stressed job and career wise also. I just feel like I could lash out and I don't care of the outcome if my actions. It's actually scaring me. 😣

Speak to your doctor and explain what's going on, it could be something as simple as your iron levels being too low causing this, or a hormonal imbalance. Either ways a full blood count couldn't hurt to rule out anything physical, and then maybe a referall to mental health services x