Aibu?

[depechegal]

I've been with my partner for 2years. We don't live together.

He booked us a weekend away in Jersey for the both of us. However he knew that I don't have any photo id to board the plane but booked it anyway.
I've applied for a citizen card but fear I won't get it back in time. Typically all been left to the last minute Our flight leaves in 2 weeks time.
Thing is, he happily said that he will go without me. I'm glad he eventually told me about the break or else I'd probably be left at the airport. Aibu or is he just being a selfish prat?

Thoughtless . He doesn’t care whether you go or not.

Well he isn't much of a partner. Time for a trade in.

What?!?!

YANBU

Hmm has he got friends in Jersey he wants to meet up with? Seems odd that he doesn't appear to mind whether you are there or not

Yes he does.
I just find it odd that it's my first holiday abroad in 16years and he's said this.
Who in their right mind books a last minute holiday knowing full well the other party has no photo id whatsoever? He offered to renew my passport quite a few times over the months but it never got done. If my citizen card doesn't arrive, I won't be going. Dissapointed isn't the word.

Does he think Jersey is like The Isle of Wight and that you don't need ID or something? He's a tool either way - especially saying he'll happily go without you. Unless that IS the reason he has, knowing you won't be able to go.

He's bipolar. Honestly I'm so tired if him doing things on a random whim with no notice. I'm post menopause, it causes me massive anxiety. And it's me that picks up the pieces. I've had the silent treatment for 2days cos I kicked off. I was abused in the past, it's a trigger mechanism.

He hasn't knocked on my front door in 16 months yet he's quite prepared to leave the aged dog with separation anxiety home alone, twice daily visits from his sister granted but no thought fir the neighbours with the barking and howling for 4 days.

And he promised me a holiday and he's quite prepared to fuck off and leave me. I don't want to sound needy but ffs. That's just selfish right?

Just an update.
My id never arrived in time. He never rescheduled the flights. He went without me and hasn't even bothered to message that he got there safely....🙄

Use the time apart to practice for when he gets back.
What a cunt op.

I'm not sure why you didn't renew your own passport, but looks like this relationship is over, and not before time.

I hope the dog is ok, I couldn’t leave my elderly Lab home alone ☹️
Sad you didn’t get your holiday but you have to ask yourself if this relationship is worth it? Don’t think this is the last time something like this will happen.

He's shown you how unimportant you are to him. Think about whether this is what you want from a relationship.

I didn't the money. He offered but it never got done. I applied for a citizen card and he still left without me

Are you reconsidering your relationship with him?

This sounds very unhealthy..maybe it's best if you both work on your individual mental health instead.

I think your future would be happier without him. He doesn't treat you as well as you deserve.

I hope you have friends or family around who treasure you.

@Gazelda I dont. No friends or family

Do something nice for yourself while he's away. Go to the cinema. Sit down with a gripping book and an ice cream. Sleep in late. Listen to fun music. Stroll to a park and have a coffee. Go swimming. Something for you.

And then work out how to find the strength to end the relationship. He isn't good for you.