Children and swearing

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I'd love to know what the protocol in your household is regarding swearing to do with all ages.

Ban it completely and discipline? Allow your kids to know what they are/hear them but explain why they're not appropriate? Let them?

No judgement from me. It's one of those parenting decisions that I never know what my true standpoint is on it and what is just societal/generational habits in my thought processes!

In our 26 years of marriage, I've used swear words three times to express my frustration, and not in front of DD. I've never heard DH or DD swear. Our friends don't swear and DD doesn't have friends that swear. I guess you fit in with those that are like minded - not criticising anyone by the way.

Up to the age of about 10 I didn't allow.any swearing, on the TV, music, anything. Nowadays I don't censor swearing on TV etc but would be shocked if DD herself swore.

I never knowingly swore in front of mine but apart from being unable to police GD or their father when in the car - which resulted in GD nearly crashing when the 3 year old yelled out the window 'look where you're fucking going' (he stopped doing it after that) - I took the stance that they were going to hear the words from other sources, I'd not give them the message that they were powerful words by reacting strongly if I heard them and, above all, there is a whole world between being sworn in front of and being sworn at.

I never swear and don't allow my children to either. My husband drops the odd f-bomb and the kids tell him off.

We don't swear at home. They know that I know that they know and use the words with their friends but I think being able to moderate your language depending on the setting is useful.

Oh bless you

I can absolutely guarantee that your dd and her mates will use swear words, even if it's only occasionally

My parents (I am late 40s) have never heard me swear

Doesn't mean I don't

Here swearing is fine as long as it isn’t in English, that way very few people know you’re swearing. Even then switching to swear at someone isn’t allowed.

DD2.5 hears us swear (by accident) every now and then. Sometimes she gleefully repeats words, and we say "that's a word for grown-ups" which is something she understands (first time I said it, she said "like coffee and wine?" which really made me giggle) and she then doesn't say it again. So she's aware that the words exist but she doesn't say them herself.

I swear around ds 8 but he knows they are adult words.He is not allowed to swear.

We never swore in front of our kids, as our parents didn't swear in front of us, nor would I allow the kids to swear in front of me.
They're adults in their thirties now and they still don't swear in front of me, or in front of their own kids.

We don't generally swear at home in front of the DC bloody hell is about as strong as they've heard (and DH tells me off for that ).

But the older one hears it at school, and we've had the discussion with her about swearing and when it's not ok - not directed at anyone, be careful about when you say it (I.E I don't expect her younger sister to learn any swear words from her and not in front of the grandparents) and that some people find it offensive, so it's not for general conversational use.

But I'm not offended at all by swearing, there are far worse things to be offended by IMO and occasional swearing - not bothered.

Dd is q0 now and l have always tried to shield her from swear words but as she gets older, l know this isn't sustainable. So now l say l don't want to hear her swearing even if she hears it at school or the park etc and there is a time and a place. Think rules like this change as they get older.

Allow your kids to know what they are/hear them but explain why they're not appropriate?

This is my approach.