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I know I'm being a bitch

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Theperfectdad · 19/06/2022 12:55

So my kids dad is a kind person we are still quite close. And good friends.

But he is a Disney dad. All the fun bits no actual parenting. So kids think the sun shines out of his arse. His adult children think so as well. So I'm not sure when my kids are older /adults that they will realise that he does all the fun bits bit no actual responsibility.

Anyway his thing on fathers day . It that he will see his adult children so they can buy him a fathers day meal he can collect his fathers day gift. Then later today he will come to my house expecting his fathers day gift and card . Its almost like "hey I'm a father , I have come to collect My gifts "

But yet My experience of being a mother and all the hard stuff that gos with it such. As dd going through domestic violence. All her mental health issues. How it effected her little boy . How he was almost put into care. How my teenage son has metal health issues. Showing some serious signs. That I have to cope with day in day out. And fight for him to get help . Then he gets put on a for ever lasting waiting list. Yet here I am practically scared of my own child.

I come last in everything I feel and look run down because I put everyone before myself. (Everything) comes down to me . I'm just one person but it's all on me .

And there he is with hardly a care in the world thinking how great he is. Showing the 2 youngest what a great dad he is .

I suppose I'm jealous just want things to be normal.

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lisavanderpumpscloset · 19/06/2022 13:03

So what are you going to do about it?

FayeGovan · 19/06/2022 13:05

Im sorry @Theperfectdad, that sounds utter shit.

Theperfectdad · 19/06/2022 13:07

Nothing just moan. Because I can't control what other people do. And can't just stop supporting my older children/ adult children with their needs. Would just be nice if someone Said hey you ok? Or somthing.

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P205 · 19/06/2022 13:07

Luckily, my kids are a bit older. I just tell them it’s Father’s Day and they can text him if they want. Does he arrange stuff for Mother’s Day for you? If not, just say I thought we weren’t doing it anymore as I didn’t get anything.

Theperfectdad · 19/06/2022 13:27

P205 · 19/06/2022 13:07

Luckily, my kids are a bit older. I just tell them it’s Father’s Day and they can text him if they want. Does he arrange stuff for Mother’s Day for you? If not, just say I thought we weren’t doing it anymore as I didn’t get anything.

He does . Like a token gift type thing. He's not a bad person and I guess some of the stuff with My older kids are not his fault. Although he never actually supported me with those situations. Sometimes actually made them worse. Which is one of the reasons we are not together.

If I'm blunt I suppose it comes down to jealousy on my part. And on fathers day he's like a peacock look at me I'm a fantastic dad.

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