What do I do now? Just feel lost.

[pheonixrebirth]

I'm early 40,s, not in bad Nick if I say so myself. But just feeling a bit lost these days. I have twins who are 22 and a 16 year old about to leave school next week. I left their dad 6 years ago- complete narcissist but after a year of being single I got together with an old flame. Turned out to be a drug abusing cocklodger. I'm not normally a fool but he hid it very well until he couldn't, I got rid, he has stalked me for the last 18 months but seems to be letting go at last.
My question is, does it/will it get better? I'm just not so sure that I will truly trust anyone ever again. I think my biggest hang up is that I see through men now.
I know the lines, the excuses - especially since being on this site. Can someone give me any hope?!

If you were a teenager or thereabouts when you got together with your exH, then a year after splitting met someone else who is only now leaving you alone, maybe a bit of time on your own would be helpful. If you have spent much of the last 25? years in relationships, maybe take a breath and get your head together before you figure out what you really want, rather than rushing into another relationship.

Good for you in getting rid

Try reading "how to do the work " by Nicole LaPera or following Julie Mennano on Instagram instagram.com/thesecurerelationship?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Both are really great at giving insight into your own patterns