Family Birthday Party, lots of people going, dont want to get Covid!!!t

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DH family side. At a venue and lots of people going. I dont want to go as I dont want to catch anything.

DH says Im being silly and famy will expect me to be there

You could wear a mask if you wish to. I still do, sometimes.

either don't go or wear a mask

You could get anything at any time. I'm just getting over Norovirus and I haven't been hanging in large groups.

Why are you so worried , surely covid is now just one of those things , it shouldn’t be stopping you doing things and living your life , it’s here to stay so are you never going to a family gathering again ?

If you had your two vaccinations you should be fine. If you are an anti-vaxxer or conspiracy theorist, better stay home.

I feel the same and we have been extremely cautious for 2 years and hardly gone out but I am just so fed up of COVID ruling my life that it had gotten to the stage where I think that if I am going to get it then so be it.

From what everyone is saying these new variants aren't as bad as previous.

Everyone’s getting it all the time.
Unless you’re clinically vulnerable and unvaccinated or need a negative test for travel within the next few weeks yabu I’m afraid.

@Floralnomad has hit the nail on the head op.

"it’s here to stay so are you never going to a family gathering again ?"

It's never going to disappear completely so you may as well get on with things. Or live in fear forevermore.

I don't want to be in a car accident, that doesn't stop me from driving ever again.

Dh is medical and was recently in a care home for work. 8 very elderly people there - all of whom had various health complications- had tested positive and were all absolutely fine and were hardly affected by it at all.

I'm guessing you had your jabs. Might as well crack on them and enjoy life as let's face it we never know how long we've got. You could spend ages 'being careful with covid' then get diagnosed with cancer.

Dh is a paramedic and has literally seen the worst covid has to offer (you don't even want to know what he's seen) and is more than happy for me to go about my business as normal with our young children one of whom is only 3 months old.

Have you not been out for two years? Is it relevant that it is your DH's side of the family, do you just not want to go?

Would you be as keen to not get covid if it was your family gathering rather than your dh’s?

What are you scared of really? Getting covid at this point (unless you're CV) is just an annoyance and not even that likely to happen. Life goes on surely?

Gonna bet you would go if it was your family

Having just had Covid for the first time, I kind of understand how you feel! Fairly convinced I caught it at a concert & it's making me wary of attending another huge gathering, even though I know the risk is probably small.

Nobody really knows how they'll be until they catch it. I am double vaxxed & boosted and I was in bed for 5 days with it.

You could wear a mask to try and minimise the risk further I suppose.

Tbh I think you need help if you’re still this scared. Unless you’re CV it can be nasty, but no more than a bad case of flu. If you are CV, that’s different.

Can you be outside say in a garden almost all of the time?

Are you extremely vulnerable or care for someone who is? Do you go to shops, cinema, on public transport? Do you have a holiday coming soon?

is this important to your DH?
Then we have a better idea.

Do you just not want to go to a party on DH's side and using this as an excuse? because I find it hard to believe you haven't been going about normal life where you could have caught covid countless times. COVID is here to stay, so best live normally.

My SIL always get super scared of covid when meeting up with our family. Always able to meet up with her own. She has effectively isolated my brother from his family. You busy doing this?

Friend was sure she'd suffer badly with covid. Sanitised obsessively, avoided any busy place, grabbed all jabs as soon as possible (claimed a caring role on weak evidence at one point). Then she finally tested positive & spent 9 days reorganising her garden bored witless, although still very purist about not going out again until her LFTs showed negative.
I don't think she'll ever test again, now going out all the time !!
All that fear for ... what. I don't know what.

Re the " not even likely to happen" point, just saying on the news last night they said 1 person in 50 in England and 1 in 30 in Scotland had covid last week.

However it is generally much milder and not a reason to stop living life.

UPDATE
I had Covid and was so poorly

Off work for a while put on SSP so income was lower

I look after an elderly relative once a week

Nothing to do with which side of the family, I adore my inlaws

OK - bit more understandable.
Some choices - just go and enjoy as much as possible normally, yes with risk of Covid
Could someone else visit your relative for a that week?

Go for a short time outside and mask or inside and mask - will you or DH actually enjoy this - again could someone else visit the relative?

Don't go - will keep you safer for job and relative but how long do you not attend things and how will it affect your relationship with DH?