Really need advice. No one to speak to. Severe gastroenteritis symptoms.

[2boysand1princess]

Feeling really broken, emotionally and physically. On day 6 of non stop nausea and diarrhoea. GP thinks I’ve got a stomach virus or food poisoning. Started with one bout of vomiting and feeling under the weather for one day and for 5 days straight I’ve had diarrhoea everytime I drink or eat something. Called out of hours and they said wait until Monday to see GP or come down to a&e.
DH is in a right mood because I’m ill and he’s having to watch our 3 DC. I’ve become so weak and exhausted. Lost a stone in 5 days. I have no one who can tell me it will be ok or offer a shoulder to cry on. No one to even share what I’m going through. Never felt so alone and broken. My eldest who is 12 is the only one who seems worried. He’s getting me water soup etc DH is watching the younger 2 and acting like he’s not interested whether I’m still alive or not.
I’m now in a state thinking that this maybe something serious like bowel cancer or IBD. I am an Ibs sufferer, but I’ve never had diarrhoea in the past as I’m always constipated.
anyone had experience with food poisoning that has lasted this long?

@2boysand1princess

Yes had it for about 10 days. Took Imodium while still travelling but had to stop once I got home and couldn't get rid of it. Every time I ate or drank anything except water I was on the loo. I don't remember the flight back from China at all.

Thank you for kind words and advice ladies. You don’t know how much it has helped me today. Hopefully, once I’m better I need to make an appointment to sought my head out. Been having some really depressing feelings recently. 💐

I feel so sorry for you. There’s nothing like a serious illness or serious event to really test your relationship and show you how your other half feels about you. I have chronic disabilities related to autoimmune issues that my Dh has had to contend with and I’m just thankful I’m with him and not my ex as I know my ex would behave exactly the way your dh is! Its just not acceptable and isn’t the way you behave if you love someone. I think if you wouldn’t treat yourself like he’s treating you then you know he’s wrong.

Personally I’d take some immodium at this point, I’d usually say don’t take it and let it run it’s course but we’re talking about a week in now. If that doesn’t calm it down I’d be taking myself off to A and E. I think you need checking over if things are this bad. There’s lots of things that could be going on.

DH had a bout of this a few weeks ago. It was the poorliest I've ever seen him but he did start to manage a piece of toast on Day 6 then was back to normal BM Day 8 then normal about Day 10

Hi OP,

I had the exact same thing a month ago. I lost 8lbs in 4 days and couldn't keep anything in. I've never experienced anything like it. I am convinced I had Salmonella. The dr wasn't concerned about the rapid weight loss and told me I had to ride it out which could take up to 10 days (!)
Really hope it gets better for you soon. I found my body craved bananas and plain white rice when I got a little better. Take care

I'm sorry to hear that op. Unless you are ill frequently or you are in a precarious financial situation, and even then it's unfair, it really is deeply unkind of your DH to behave in this way. At best, given that he is usually supportive, he is perhaps being "objective focused" and feels he is doing his bit by looking after the DC and not going to work, at worst he is pretty cold and unfeeling. But I would try and out that out of your mind for now and focus on getting better. You can't handle marital issues when you are physically fragile

Some bugs can take 10 days to clear. I would try and get some advice from a medic. There are some reputable private companies whose doctors will do home visits (Google doctor on call) but depends where you live and maybe too pricey but worth it for reassurance and a speedier recovery maybe? Once when this happened to me abroad, a doctor gave me an injection which stopped everything and I felt immediately better. But perhaps better to seek NHS out of hours advice first, if any is available that is?

And when you are fully recovered take an objective look at how your DH coped with this situation and then you can judge with more clarity whether he has been a complete arse or not and take things from there! One step at a time and hope you feel better soon.

I don’t know if anyone medically trained can comment on the wisdom of suggesting this for your situation but I have taken charcoal tablets in the past for sickness and diarrhoea. It worked well when travelling in India and it’s a mainstream treatment for diarrhoea in Sweden, although uncommon in the UK. Get well soon x

Op I’m so sorry to read your post your poor love, Iv suffered serious tummy issues like that for 20 years now constant diarea, Iv had a million different diagnosis over the years & was poked & prodded test after test.
it turned out to be malabsorption and a complete lack of most vitamins which I need to have injected, or infusions in hospital you name it & I live on a liquid diet.
i feel your pain it is the most debilitating thing and your hubby needs to get a bloody grip.
good dad or not there needs to be a bit of understanding here. They are his kids too & this is not fair on you.
the reason I say about my situation is it started very suddenly after they thought I had a bug but kept on & on and just as you described huge weight loss.
so ask them could you be checked for this too as it causes sever anemia and it might just help if they do check your blood levels etc for a complete blood count to rule it out at least.
mine was not found for years and has run away with itself so if I can stop that happening to just 1 person by sharing it’s worth it.
honestly worth the question.
you may be dehydrated too and low on the essential vitamins so it’s vital you rest and get checked.
try a hot water bottle and feet up
good luck and do not be punished for being sick it is not your fault.

I’m probably a bit like your DH, I find it very difficult to show sympathy for sick people, even relatives. I do all the practical stuff I possibly can and feel sorry for them and really hope they get better soon but I come over very detached.
I think it’s how I was brought up.

Just saying DH may not intend to be an arse, and if you haven’t been this Ill before he may have no idea how to react.

How are you today op?

Thank you for asking!
The diarrhoea has slowed down to once every 10 hours now. Still get cramps, but not as horrific. No appetite at all, but I need to put some of the weight back on, I feel so weak and frail. I’m actually too scared to eat.
DH stepped up today and made me some chicken broth. I didn’t get into a deep conversation with him as I just want to focus on getting better for my DC. My baby is missing me so much.

I had this once and I was so sick I couldnt think. The BRAT diet saved me although I only ate the banana and dried toast. I drank only water. I managed to hold things down before you.

It really is horrible. It took me a week to feel even half well.

I hope it goes soon.

Not what you want to hear but my partner had salmonella that went on for months (still tested positive 3 months after the first bought of illness)

The BRAT diet for sure, then you must rebuild your gut health slowly. Kefir, probiotics, and you might find yourself intolerant to dairy for a while. It's a nasty infection.

My partner was bleeding from their bottom after the first 10 days which was alarming to us but not the medics we called in a panic, (so don't be overly worried or surprised if you notice it) you really do need to rest and do very little while you recover. Fluids more essential than food and rehydration sachets are optimal.

I had 10 days of it with shigella. In the worst 3 days I just stayed in the bathroom 24/7 and prayed for death! You will turn a corner soon and feel better :)

I'm glad the symptoms are resolving a little op - it sounds as though you have had a really nasty bug - I hope you continue to feel stronger soon. A visit to the doctor for some strong probiotics might be in order (some you can only get with prescription I think, not sure) and well done to your DH for stepping up! Chicken soups sounds like the perfect recovery food!