I know we all have our own stresses which we have to endure but I wonder how you all deal with them without going loopy?
Like everyone else I’ve had my fair share of stressful situations but I just don’t seem to handle them well. I have always been someone who suffers from anxiety but despite trying various coping strategies from having CBT and counselling, hypnotherapy, mindfulness, exercise etc, I still very much struggle. I have awful IBS which is constant and goes in overdrive when I am stressed, I am constantly holding these life stresses in my muscles and am tenses all over. I am ratty natured and angry all the time.
We have had lots of anxious and depressing times over the last 10 years and as each one is thrown at us my capability to deal with them is getting weaker and weaker.
We lost our 4 year old niece to a brain tumour 10 years ago, 18 months ago my MIL passed away from cancer, 4 years ago my mum was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and I help care for her which is so exhausting. On top of that I have had 6 years of school refusal with ds, he has anxiety too and I have to be strong for him but feel like crumbling into a heap sometimes.
2 years ago my beloved dog had an op to remove a cancerous lump from his back. Last year I found another lump in his abdomen and he had an emergency op to remove his spleen, which was full of cancer, the vet gave him a few weeks to a couple of months, he is still here and has defied the vets grave prognosis but last night we found another large lump in his abdomen and I am taking him to the vets this morning.
It just feels like yet another chunk of life stress thrown our way.
I feel like crumbling yet am fully aware these are every day stresses that most people experience throughout their lives.
How do you/have you coped to get yourself through the shit times in life? What’s you secret to a successful way to get through it all?