Being induced alone

[showmethegin]

Hi All, please someone talk me down. It was my due date yesterday and I had reduced movements; due to this they are going to induce me now. My DP has gone home to collect my bags but won't be allowed to stay.

I'm absolutely terrified, I'm scared of the pain; I'm scared of being left alone, I feel really overwhelmed and upset. Up until now I had felt quite calm about the idea of giving birth now I'm just so frightened. This is our rainbow baby after 4 years of trying and three losses so is desperately wanted.

It's an absolutely joke that their still making women do this! I'm sorry OP.

I'm assuming that they'll call your husband/you can call him as soon as you go into active labour so he can come be with you. Also sometimes if induction doesn't work quickly, they often send women home I think, and then you'd come back with your husband when it's time. I know it's daunting but please try not to be scared, try and view it as a medical procedure like a stretch snd sweep, rather than the birth, and know that your husband will be there when it really matters. Good luck snd congrats in advance, this will all be forgotten in a couple of days time ☺️

Hi,

The wee small hours can feel quite lonely.

I’ve no experience of induction, but labour itself isn’t pain that’s unbearable in my experience. My mum used to say it’s the most positive pain you have. I wouldn’t describe it as pain tbh. It’s not pain in the sense you get when something is wrong with you. It’s strong muscle contractions rather than sharp pain.

The first few hours it’s not likely to be very intense. Can DH stay once you’re dilated?

Try and rest while you can, Easy for me to say, but labour is a marathon not a sprint. You’ll need the energy for later.

That sucks, I am so sorry. Can you ask to have the first pessary/balloon/whatever they're going for and the initial monitoring and then ask to go home and come back tomorrow?

Oh and I'm in Australia so if you need someone to chat to I'll be up for a while! It's 12.30 here...

Don't be scared, just try and relax. I was induced 3 times and the last one I was alone, my dh couldn't be there. I walked around my room doing squats while waiting for the pains and I listened to some music.

Thank you so much everyone. I think a PP is right, the early hours are the worst. I'm hoping once the sun comes up I'll feel brighter

A lovely midwife has just come up and told me he can come back from 8 then pretty much stay, embarrassed to say I burst into tears of relief.

I was 'prepared' that I may not get the Labour I wanted; the most important thing being that we get our baby here safely but I think it's just happened so quickly it's overwhelming

Also had an induction for being over dates and reduced movement. Was ok, ramped up a bit more quickly than the spontaneous labours, but it was manageable and baby was fine.

in many ways I’d have liked to have focussed on me and my body. When DH was there I did some looking after him, should have been thinking about me.

m your baby will be here soon, you need to get all those lovely hormones going - so try to find the positives and think about them rather than why you are scared. It’ll maybe help to list why you are worried and talk them through with the MW. If you’ve had losses they’ll be aware and of course that increases your nerves.

Then put on some great music and dance that baby out.

sending you dilating vibes.

My sister was induced due to reduced movement and everything progressed nice and smoothly. Baby was out in under 12 hours. I was also induced and currently feeding my 12 week old, good luck OP. Xx

What you're feeling is completely natural. I sobbed when we where in the car park before we even entered the building and during the induction process when he couldn't be there. Thank god for FaceTime and the amazing midwives xxx

I always wanted a home birth.

child 1- first births at home too risky = no
child 2 - so complicated that there was no chance.

After losses, the most important bit is that you get to cuddle that beautiful baby. How it happens ultimately is background noise.

Will be thinking of you today. Not long till you get to hold that beautiful baby. And only 3 hours till DH can be with you.

Hi OP, you gaht this!! DH will be with you soon, and hopefully the sun’s up now too. Can you hear any birds from where you are? They’ve been up for nearly two hours here!! Sending you good vibes :)

Hi @showmethegin im so so happy to see your post - you helped me on here a couple of years ago when i was going through a miscarriage so i wouldnt forget your username you truly helped me.
so happy to see your news xx

Oh I'm so sorry I'm only seeing this now, I had induction on my own and basically on my had DH there for the c section and then I was a close contact of covid so didn't see him to two days after...it was fine! Who needs men anyway! I hope it went ok for you and you're both home and well by now

I've just come back here after a whirlwind of a two weeks. This made me cry: I hope you are well: sending you so much love ❤️❤️❤️

For anyone still on here; thank you so much for lifting my spirits! I had an EMCS after 2 days of Labour but we have our rainbow boy, a son after 4 long years.

Oh congratulations!!! 💐
That's so lovely!
He's adorable! 💛

Congratulations, he's perfect xxxx

What a beautiful baby! Well done.

Oh, now, that is a GOOD one! Well done.

he is beautiful, and I am an expert at judging babies.

hope you are ok, 2 day labours are not fun. Do your pelvic floor exercises and sniff that wee boys head.

congratulations. How lovely to hear your news and see your son.

rest up and enjoy the snuffles and snuggles.

Ahh thanks for coming back to update us! And sharing a photo of your precious boy - he’s amazing 🤩