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[Cuppatea12]

Hi i started dating a nice guy we got on great for the first 2 months , then out of nowhere he sends me a text saying he doesnt want to continue with seeing each other , as we are a 1 hour apart and was struggling with the distance . However fast forward he then ..... contacts me a week later to say he had made a mistake and wants to go back with me , I agree as I really liked him. Then after a few weeks of having good days , we make arrangements to see each other the following weekend , he then deletes me from his Whattsapp . I am frantic with worry that something might have happened , even go to the stage of phoning a hospital incase he has had an accident . The following day he turns up on my doorstep apologising and wanting me back I am so confused and dont know what to think ,,, he said he was scared thats why he dumped me again , can anyone help me see through this fog ?? of confusion I am feeling , thanks .

What fog? There is no fog. The guy has shown you twice that he is flaky. Dump, block and for God's sake don't look back.
There is no shortage of men that you let this wanker muck you about like this.

Thanks Pastaa

He's pissing you about.
Block him

Block and move on. It's not worth it. You should still be in the honeymoon stage, not confused and been dumped twice. Life's too short to be fucked about by mediocre men.

People don't generally have an accident, get rushed to hospital and accidentally delete WhatsApp along the way.

You've given him a chance and he hasn't taken it. Don't give him any more.

As sad as it can feel, especially when you get on well with them, him doing this twice is not on and says a LOT about him as a person. If he isn't coping with it when it's going good, what happens when it inevitably hits a rough patch, or life takes over in a bad way and you need support? It doesn't sound like he's in the right place for a relationship and honestly you deserve better. Everyone does. If you can, I'd leave that one in the dust and find someone who shows up ALWAYS. Good, bad and ugly times. Not running a mile without so much as a text because "he worried".

Any advice?

Yes: Never contact him again. Don't look back.

You're worth so much more than this.

Life is too short for this sh*t.

Olivia I read your thoughts and thanks your right life is too short jsut hurts when someone treats you like this make me feel foolish thankyou for your wise words.

Basilbrushgotfat , thankyou your so right i feel i couldnt trust him anymore .

Worraliberty
Yes your right i feel doubly foolishy for being so naive not been dating for many years ...............time to leave it alone thankyou

Herroyalhigness, yes exactly what i thought but the bubble has burst the trust has gone thankyou for your advice.

It does hurt, it feels like absolute crap and you don't deserve that one bit. But just know you are worth so so much more. Don't let another's crappy actions and inability to function bring you down. You're not foolish at all, a lot of us have been there .. myself included!! You've clocked it sooner than I did. Wishing you all the very best for the future and I have no doubt you'll meet someone who does make you feel special like you deserve.

Get rid of him immediately and block.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Yep your right he did and it makes me feel awful thankyou

Olivia , aww many thanks for your kind words and thoughts sorry if it has happended to you , I do wonder why some men just dont know how to behave when I would never treat anyone like this , having been single for a long time I think i will just go back to that and if I meet someone who is kind then so be it , all the best to you .

Just want to thankyou ALL with update have Dumped the guy who could not make up his mind if he wanted to be with me .............a lesson learnt even at my time of life ..........dont put up with time wasters , thanks for all your support and kind words and great advice , hope you all have a lovely weekend ! x