DD14 is generally speaking doing ok. She is polite, can take her anywhere and has recently upped her game with studying and trying hard in school. She has many many wonderful points of which we are so proud. Great eh?
She also doesn’t have many friends. One that she meets up with outside school from time to time. She is extremely easily influenced and will become interested in things that people she likes enjoy purely to fit in with them - we’ve had the ‘goth’ phase, anime, video games etc All which were encouraged to a degree. She has fallen away from every single thing when the friendship cooled off. She can be a bit immature and says silly things that aren’t true and pretends she has fallen etc frequently. It’s really irritating and I have pointed out that when she is her ‘natural’ self there is no one I would rather be around but when she acts in this attention seeking way it will put people off her. She is also ridiculously lazy.
She has absolutely no interests of her own. Anything she’s ever shown the slightest interest in we have encouraged, helped to resource and generally gone out of our way to support. She always reverts to sitting around watching tv and playing on her phone. She has no social media after a terrible issue with it previously.
I just feel that if she had an interest it would take up more of her headspace and she wouldn't be sitting around moaning about how difficult her life is. Is this just normal teen behaviour? Should I let it go? I just want the best for her and can see how fulfilling a interest can be and how mental health is improved by distracting yourself through activity.