Sarah's Law

[wiltedbloom]

With a Sarah's law disclosure how much are you told? Is it just that the person is a risk to children or are you given more detail - eg what they did?

I would imagine just that they pose a risk, either way they are on Sarah's law!

We are currently awaiting a disclosure and it will involve more info. We have been told that we cannot effectively safeguard DS unless we have the info. The police are coordinating their diaries with social services and they will then both come to our house to give us the info.

I'm sorry to hear you're in a similar position @Shockingdisclosure
The police haven't told me what level of detail to expect and it's making it hard to prepare myself for it.

So sorry for you too wilted, it is such a horrible position to be in. In our case it is absolutely tearing our family apart and I am having to rethink our entire future.

the police told us confidentiality must be maintained so for example rather than being told an age we might be told under 12 or under 16.

@Shockingdisclosure ours too. You have my sympathy.
Thank you for sharing with me - I wasn't even sure if they'd tell me that level of information, so that's really good (so not the right word) to hear.

Do you currently have a social worker - or will they just be involved for the disclosure?

Just for the disclosure wilted. I have no idea why tbh. Perhaps they think DS needs to be on a child protection plan or perhaps it is just to give us advice. As you say the police say very little before the disclosure.

I feel for you with the comment about being good. Nothing about this is remotely good and it is heartbreaking to go from thinking you had a normal family to this.

This is a very lonely place to be so happy to chat whenever you want :)

I've spoken to children's services but so far we aren't on a plan or open to them - they've deemed me a 'protective factor'
As far as I know it's just me and the police for the disclosure, but unlike you I'm having to go to a police station for it.

That is good that they aren’t concerned wilted. I am hoping we will have the same outcome as we are being very protective of DS.

I am guessing ours is at home as we live rurally but perhaps different forces do it differently.

Hopeful bump as I'd like to hear other experiences too.

One last bump.

We have now had our disclosure wilted. It was very basic but did include year of alleged offences, type of alleged offences, age range of victims and whether there was more than one victim. You cannot ask questions for more information, they can only tell you what they have brought with them.

@Shockingdisclosure how are you?

Ok thanks wilted although it was worse than we imagined.

@Shockingdisclosure Just having the disclosure or finding out more information?

More information, was beyond anything we had imagined. The police and social worker were very nice and made the disclosure as easy on us as they possibly could. On the plus side at least we know now and can safeguard DS. It had meant the rift in the family growing however as the wife of the person is refusing to believe us or the police.

@Shockingdisclosure I'm sorry. Our situations sound very similar. I've had my disclosure now too, but sadly my partner didn't want to hear it so I had to go on my own.

Do you have support to deal with your partner's reluctance?

I can't imagine how much additional stress that adds.

I am so sorry that your partner is not supportive wilted. How are you doing?

No, not really. Finding things very tough and lonely.

I’m so sorry wilted, it is a very lonely place to be. Not many people have experience of this, do you have anyone you can talk to? I have been hit by utter exhaustion and have been having afternoon naps, I think because of the strain of the last two months catching up with me.