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LittleMissSunshine8 · 11/06/2022 22:28

Hi everyone,

I hope I've popped this in the right topic - I'm a newbie at posting so sorry if it should be in a different one! I'm looking for some advice from people on here please, I always read threads and find everyone is so helpful!

I'm 28 and live with my fiancé, who has been begging for years for us to start trying for a baby, but for me it's never been the right time/I've not felt ready (not in the right place career wise, didn't have a house at the time, wanted to do some big holidays and things I considered my 'goals' first). Even recently I was saying I wasn't ready for a other few years, maybe when I'm 30-31yo.

However...last week I had some strange symptoms...strange taste/heightened smell, really emotional, bloated, nauseous etc. so I did a frer...bfn. Strangely, despite not thinking I wanted to start ttc for years, I felt kind of disappointed/sad when I saw one line, and haven't been able to stop thinking about it. This has now got me reconsidering everything!

We're planning to get married end of 2024 and start trying then - but now after reading threads on here I've realised it seems to take a long time for some people and I'm wondering if we should maybe just go for it and possibly (if it happened quickly!) have a baby before getting married...otherwise it'll be 3 years away which seems a long time.

If anyone who has felt the same and has had children/waited has any advice it would be so greatly appreciated 🥰🥰 sorry if any of this sounds naive or daft, my head is just a bit all over the place thinking about it since feeling sad after the bfn! Xx

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Extragherkinsplease · 12/06/2022 01:24

Hi!
we did the same - wait til after this/ after that/ never enough money etc and then decided actually when would it ever be the right time? There will always be something going on in our lives or something else planned out that might stop us.

we starting trying and it did unfortunately take 3 years for us to get pregnant. After many negative tests we both got tested (both of us were fine) but just was so fed up each month of having that negative test that we were both so down about it. A friend recommended that we stopped ‘trying’ to take out the stress and worry of a negative result each month and it finally happened!

I think if you really are considering it - why not just go for it?! There’s nothing to say it will take you as long as us, but if it’s something you know you’ll want in a few years it might not be the worst thing to get pregnant now.
your plans might change (and your life certainly will too!) but I would definitely say don’t wait, just go for it!

LittleMissSunshine8 · 13/06/2022 19:35

Aw thanks so much for your reply lovely!!!

That's really great advice - thank you for sharing your experience of how long it took for you to conceive, which definitely the biggest thing on my mind at the moment!

I still have strange symptoms so going to do another test in a few days...who knows maybe the decision will be made for me!🤣🤣🤣 xx

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