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I left my 16 year old at home for 24 hours and he ate...

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mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 20:11

A ready meal (mac & cheese)
A pot noodle
A family sized pizza
A full tub of 40 cocktail sausages
At least 2 big buckets full of buttered popcorn (maybe more, but only evidence of two pots where he melted the butter).
4 and half bags of crisps
Several bowls of cereal (I'd guess about 3 or 4 from the number of bowls left)
Multiple rounds of toast/sandwiches- about half a loaf worth, with a mix of fillings - choc spread, jam, cheese, soft cheese
A block of feta
A 2 person packet of fresh tortellini
and something chocolately that came in a plastic tub that I can't remember what would have been in there, but there was definitely cocoa powder residue in the bottom of the container.

He did not eat the cherry tomatoes, carrot sticks, hummus, apples, grapes, bananas or yoghurts.

He's as skinny as a rake!

I'm not complaining as we were away on a Uni visit with eldest, and he was alone overnight for the first time and the house was still standing, the cats and dogs were fed and let out appropriately (the dog wasn't actually walked, but we went early evening to early evening, so we've walked her early Friday then late Saturday and she's only a Chi cross that doesn't need hours of walking), but no poo, so he def did garden runs with her. The house was pretty tidy apart from the stack of dirty crockery and empty food packaging.

How would your 16 year old son have fared?

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FayeGovan · 11/06/2022 23:16

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 22:13

Nah, to be fair, in order to eat the dog, he'd have to have skinned her, boned her and roasted her. There's no way he could have been arsed to do that when he could just bung a slice of bread in the toaster. Also, he proper dotes on her!

Glad to hear it so's the dog

Elephantia · 11/06/2022 23:17

What kind of pot was it in the pot noodle???

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 11/06/2022 23:17

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 22:08

In defence of my son, from a few of the comments,
The dog, she was walked Friday before we went, and we asked him to walk her if we weren't back by 7, which we were. She's a very small dog that only needs one walk a day. She got a walk from us both days. She's also a bit needy, so slept in his bed that night (normally she's in with us). He dotes on her, and wouldn't have left her unwalked if she needed it. He took her out into our (large) garden regularly and played with her.
The crockery and packaging was stacked in the kitchen by the sink, not strewn around the place. I can live with that. Yes, it would have been nice if he'd unloaded the dishwasher that I put on before I left, but it's not really a big deal.
He really is skinny. 6' tall, 29" waist, 33" inside leg. He's all leg. Looks a bit like an early Rodney Trotter, all tall and gangly. But, of course, he doesn't eat like this normally. I'd specifically got in a bunch of easy to grab/easy to prepare food for him. In normal times, his meals would have been more balanced/less junky, and we'd be directing him fruit and veg as snacks more often. He does always eat a pile of cereal/toast/popcorn though over and above his normally healthy meals!

Totally, he loved the opportunity to indulge in all his favourite foods. I would bloody love a weekend at home on my own indulging in food, wine, tv......even though I'm reasonably healthily most of the time.

He sounds like a very normal teenager, and person to me!

You know what though, I bet he was pleased to see you all when you got back?!

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mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:19

suk44 · 11/06/2022 23:16

Being skinny doesn't necessarily mean someone's healthy, especially if they have a diet lacking in fruit and veg.

Totally agree, which is why this is an exceptional, rather than usual, diet for my DS.

He normally eats 3 healthy meals a day, and then supplements with cereal, toast and popcorn for snacking. Not the healthiest snacks, but definitely not the worst.

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Yoloohno · 11/06/2022 23:19

My 15 year old would eat all that but he’s going through a major growth spurt currently, he’s grown about 4 inches this year so far and is approaching 6 foot.

and yes I’d happily leave him next year, looking at a child free week but he’ll have 2 adult sisters in the house, ironically less domesticated than him.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 11/06/2022 23:19

suk44 · 11/06/2022 23:16

Being skinny doesn't necessarily mean someone's healthy, especially if they have a diet lacking in fruit and veg.

No, but he's 15! So he probably is healthy....you can get away with a lot at that age. And it sounds like it was just one weekend of indulgence.....

listsandbudgets · 11/06/2022 23:20

User3568975431146 · 11/06/2022 20:29

Why on earth would you leave a 16yr old alone in the house for 24hours!!! Jeesh!!

At 16 they can move out, join the army, get married, have sex....

I've left DD for 48 hours before now she was fine. Our DCs have to become independent at some point.

OP your post made me smile. Sounds like he had a great time. Id nkt be surprised if he had a friend round though

mumwon · 11/06/2022 23:20

Op I can tell you why he left half a packet of crisps
either he was mid game or conversation & forgot/misplaced it or got distracted (see previous)
simples
Boys had really rapid growth or need extra energy to do rapid growth in adolescence - some grow faster than others - check their feet size! (Feet tend to grow first before growth spurt)

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:20

Elephantia · 11/06/2022 23:17

What kind of pot was it in the pot noodle???

Beef and Tomato, which both my teens think is the best one.

They're totally wrong. The best one is the blue Sweet and Sour.

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 11/06/2022 23:20

OP you sound like a great mum, your DS sounds like a perfectly normal 16 year old. Some pp need to get their head out their arse

oofmehip · 11/06/2022 23:21

Why is no one understanding the tone of the comment ‘why would you leave a 16 year old alone for 24 hours?”

it was clearly tongue in cheek regarding their locust tendencies.

That’s all I came to say. And that I’m now hungry.

MurderAtTheBeautyPageant · 11/06/2022 23:22

Theluggage15 · 11/06/2022 23:15

He sounds like a normal 16 year old lad to me. I saw your post as lighthearted, no idea why some people seem to be agonising over everything and being nasty.

some of the usual suspects. I think it's a hobby.

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:23

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:20

Beef and Tomato, which both my teens think is the best one.

They're totally wrong. The best one is the blue Sweet and Sour.

Oh! I've just re-read that. No, no pot in the pot noodle.

But now you all know my favourite pot noodle, so I've nowhere to hide!

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22N · 11/06/2022 23:24

This thread is a fantastic microcosm of MN. We have the:

  • competitive parenting of overeating teen boys
  • competitive healthy eating (he’d eat all the bloody tomatoes and berries)
  • parent shaming (why did you leave him home alone?! why didn’t he walk the dog??!! “How immature he is to have stayed up all night”
  • the These Days postersteenagers these days are infantile” “I left home and started a multi national biz at 12”
  • and the ever bores “if this was a thread about a teen girl people would have asked about disordered eating”
It’s almost like Bingo 🤔
thenewduchessoflapland · 11/06/2022 23:24

User3568975431146 · 11/06/2022 20:29

Why on earth would you leave a 16yr old alone in the house for 24hours!!! Jeesh!!

You do realise 16 years are capable of caring for themselves independently right?;do you think 16 year olds that join the armed forces have their parents live with them?

suk44 · 11/06/2022 23:30

I feel a bit queasy at the thought of eating that volume of food in just one day. Reminds me of those crazy mukbang videos on youtube..

FayeGovan · 11/06/2022 23:31

22N · 11/06/2022 23:24

This thread is a fantastic microcosm of MN. We have the:

  • competitive parenting of overeating teen boys
  • competitive healthy eating (he’d eat all the bloody tomatoes and berries)
  • parent shaming (why did you leave him home alone?! why didn’t he walk the dog??!! “How immature he is to have stayed up all night”
  • the These Days postersteenagers these days are infantile” “I left home and started a multi national biz at 12”
  • and the ever bores “if this was a thread about a teen girl people would have asked about disordered eating”
It’s almost like Bingo 🤔

It would be he'd ate the mn chicken

lessthanathirdofanacre · 11/06/2022 23:31

The self-righteous and Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells posts come as no surprise. Epic fail, gluttony, irresponsibility, etc. Have we had references to the obesity crisis or broken Britain yet? 🙄

Your teen sounds fine to me, OP. Teen boys can and do inhale the contents of the fridge given the chance. And they may not leave a spotless kitchen, but I would wager that many MNers were once less than perfect teens themselves.

LoadedDice · 11/06/2022 23:36

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:11

He kept the house clean and tidy.
He stacked washing up and recycling in the kitchen neatly.
He looked after two cats and one dog (including poo picking). He didn't walk the dog because she didn't need walking in that period, but would have done if needed.
I can't really see an issue TBH.
Yes, his food was oven pizza and fresh pasta and a bunch of snacks, rather than gourmet cooking from scratch (and he could definitely have done with a few more portions of fruit and veg) but really, if that's the worst my 16 year old is doing (and it is) then I think we're doing pretty damn well TBH.

I just don’t understand the low bar. You only left him for a day. Why wouldn’t he just eat the same as he always does, put the recycling out, sort the dishwasher. Why did he need easy food, not be expected to walk the dog, instead you had to do it after a busy day and then you’re grateful for his ‘stacking skills‘. What the fuck. 🤣

foxlover47 · 11/06/2022 23:37

@FayeGovan that was brought to feed a family of 6 for 5 days !!🤣

PeskyRooks · 11/06/2022 23:39

Are you sure the tiger didn't come for tea

foxlover47 · 11/06/2022 23:39

I remember my son when gaming and doing the overnights when he was off school / work .. would be very similar ... ate anything and everything that was to hand , I had to try and warn him of the perils of energy drinks but for some reason all his mates and their age group
Seem to really enjoy them ! He's 24 now still tall and slim and can look after himself , your son sounds a great lad to me .. so what he didn't walk the dog ffs

PashunFroot · 11/06/2022 23:40

This is what would happen if my husband left ME alone for 24 hours!

This is such a contrast to the other thread of a daughter the same age who doesn't help out round the house. Here the boy is being called all sorts, where as on the other thread, the girl should be left to be a kid and absolutely should not be doing anything to help out around the house.

Useranon1 · 11/06/2022 23:49

Jesús this is well in excess of 10000 calories. I'm not sure if I'm impressed or horrified Grin

mrsm43s · 11/06/2022 23:50

LoadedDice · 11/06/2022 23:36

I just don’t understand the low bar. You only left him for a day. Why wouldn’t he just eat the same as he always does, put the recycling out, sort the dishwasher. Why did he need easy food, not be expected to walk the dog, instead you had to do it after a busy day and then you’re grateful for his ‘stacking skills‘. What the fuck. 🤣

What low bar?

I don't expect him to cook family meals for himself. I would also have ready meal/convenience food if there was a night when I was on my own.

I don't expect him to walk my (not his) dog, when I am available to do so. I do expect him to do it if I'm not, but I was. He did look after her, including lettingher out and poo picking and sleeping with her, when I was not around to do that for her.

Yes, he could have emptied my dishwashing out of the dishwasher and loaded his in. But, instead, he saw the dishwasher was in use/full, and neatly stacked crockery on the side. He also threw rubbish away and stacked the recycling neatly on the side.

My son is a young adult, not a house servant.

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