Single not a couple

[Moonshild]

I wish my friends who are married or in a couple realise how much you depend on your friendships when you are a single parent.
We all need to be able to talk through issues with friends about our kids but even more so when you are a single parent and can't have the conversation with your ex but more importantly when you are single you look forward to catching up with friends and I hate that so many people in couples cancel or change things at the last minute!
I know sometimes this can't be helped BUT it might be the only thing that gets me through a tough week and last minute cancellations often leave me with no plans except doing the cleaning and washing for the whole weekend.
Am I being pathetic or do other people have the same issue? I'm beginning to feel like its just me!

It goes both ways - I get your point but the flip side is after a long week perhaps they want to talk about anything but kids. Most single parents have children who have another parent who should be taking part in their lives (I know not an ideal world some ex's are not going to discuss these things or not appropriate)

No, I completely get it. It’s not malicious or personal on their behalf, but it’s really hard.

They just don’t get it.

But people in relationships also have lots going on in their lives and aren't there just to be your sounding board.

People still cancel on me sometimes though.

I’ve just had a single parent friend send me a long voice note of how she can’t afford to send a Father’s Day card to her ex… I’ve never bought a Father’s Day card, as my dad died when I was a child, and my grandad, the only father figure I ever had, died just weeks ago. So I won’t be buying a card for him either. But she’s a single parent so does that trump everything else?

Would be nice if she could see past the end of her nose and maybe I would be there for her more.

😳Why can’t her child just make one surely most kids have papers pens etc

@BiscoffSundae i did think that but to say so would be deemed unsupportive, I’m sure. Literally every pain/inconvenience anyone has is trumped by her being a single parent. I grew up in extreme poverty, single parent family obviously as my dad had passed so I do have some understanding. You wouldn’t think so from the massive guilt trips I get for simply existing. Half her problems are faced by the general population also. Everytime I phase out this friend I get a guilt trip because she has no one else.

I’m not saying you are like this OP, but it’s not primarily a couple problem. It’s a people problem.