Will you help me please to stop binge eating?

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I've just had an entire tub of Nutella and now apart from sick, I also feel light headed and have a headache. And I can't for the life of me figure out if there should be a "to" in my subject line at all. Isn't it just "will you help me please stop binge eating"?

I need to stop. I need to stop eating like this (the tub of nutella was on top of lunch and about 5 packs of crisps). I probably need professional help but I just Don't want to go there. I would be really grateful if I could use this thread to hold me accountable. I don't know how. I just want a place where I can put it down. I only have two rules that would make a huge difference:

1. Nothing with added sugar
2. No eating after the kids have gone to bed.

Please be kind. And please also solve my grammatical question. It's a mystery to me and it's driving me crazy.

Eaten a whole pack of biscuits today so although I cannot help with the grammatical conundrum, I can definitely empathise with the binge eating. For me I know it's numbing behaviour - I'm bored, the kids have frustrated me, I'm sad or even actually the opposite Oo well it's a treat, it's pudding. Any excuse really! And I know in my head that I shouldn't be eating constantly but yet my hand just still reaches into the cupboard and grabs another....

Honestly, don't have things in the house that you binge on. Drink a pint of water if you do, and you feel like you are going to start binge eating.

Self care for the reasons that cause you to binge eat.

I'm no help I'm afraid. Glad to know I'm not alone though

This really helped me

www.wob.com/en-gb/books/kathryn-hansen-university-of-t/brain-over-binge/9780984481705?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkJKnqveg-AIVRurtCh1PKgz2EAQYAiABEgKvqvD_BwE

She also does a podcast but I've never listened so I don't know how good it is.

Good luck All, it's awful when the urges get out of control.

Look through intuitive eating pages on instagram, there are some really good resources on there about healing your relationship with food

Brain over binge
fat is a feminist issue

be kind to yourself op 💐

Are you eating alone. Can you be with others.
I binge eat when DH is away and I'm on my own and can't resist it.

Recognise what your binge foods are and don't buy them. I'm a recovering alcoholic and, even after 15 years, I wouldn't have it in the house unless for a specific limited purpose, such as a gift for someone. I treat alcohol (or I did in the early days) as if I were allergic to it. I appreciate that cutting out food isn't as simple, but cutting out your trigger foods can be. Have plenty of alternatives that you actually enjoy, not just chopped up carrots if you don't like them.

I just listened to a really interesting radio 4 documentary series this week with drs Chris and zand it was called addicted to eating. It was really well made! It was an honest and heartfelt look at their personal struggles but with lots of science to go with. I don't have an answer but might be worth a listen. I think ultra processed foods have a lot to answer for x

www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m0017tcx

Check out freedom from the diet cycle Paul wistuba, podcast & Facebook group. Will help you think differently about food. Good luck x

Hey OP. For me Vyvanse worked a treat. Diagnosed for my ADHD, but the medication can also be diagnosed for binge eating. FWIW, it reduced my actual hunger and emotional hunger too. Hope you find a solution :)

I have ADHD though not medicated. I know I'm more prone to binges so I have to make a real effort to remember to eat and not forget all day then eat everything. I use Alexa to give me voice prompts. 'Have you eaten?' I also find a 'controlled binge' helps me. So once a week or once a fortnight I might eat a whole tube of Pringles or a family bar of chocolate. I just accept it's part of me. This approach is actually healthier for me than fighting the urge then caving in for days at a time. Ironically I've actually lost weight in this way!

Making rules is where you're going wrong. You binge on the nutella because you've told yourself it's forbidden. Give yourself permission and it loses its power.

Just to massively sympathize I can be prone to this from time to time.

What has helped me is trying to focus on the feeling I know I will have after eating the food i.e pure guilt. It also helps for me to think that the first bite tastes the same as all the others. Large boiled sweets take the edge of the craving for me too.

Honestly I think the only way is to not buy it and retrain yourself.

When you get the urge go and do something outside so you're not focused on it. You know it's not driven by hunger.

Another suggestion for Brain over Binge.

Also you need to remove rules around food. Placing rules around what you're allowed to eat and when, labelling food as good and bad etc - that's literally the root cause of disordered eating and will be driving your binge behaviours. You need to reframe your whole thinking around food and you can't do that while trying to abide by the constructs of diet culture.

Please do read the book, there's others out there similar as well but I think you would find it enormously helpful.

I can easily eat 2 or 3 packets of crisps. They seem so small these days. I don't want to not have them in the house. Because that's not healthy for ds's.

I agree with this entirely. The more rules and restrictions you place around food, the more likely you'll be to binge and then continue the shame/restrict/overeat circle. I'd also recommend Overcoming Binge Eating by Christopher G. Fairburn. The best place to start is by getting to the root of why you binge in the first place.