Is there a middle ground between "a realtionship" and casual sex?

[ThreeonaHill]

I'm widowed and haven't had sex in a really long time. I'd like to!

However, I'm not at all ready for any kind of "settling down" relationship. TBH I can't ever see me wanting to share a home and/or finances again. However, sex is more than just sex to me, it's important that the person is important iyswim, I can't see myself happy with casual sex either.

I'd also (sometimes) like a partner to do things/go places with.

What's the answer? Forgive me if it's obvious. I married my first boyfriend very young and stayed married 30 years. I probably have some living to do to!

You can be in a relationship, without living together, without shared finances. It doesn't need to be serious or settling down. Just take things slow.

Yes, I realise I takes time to get to that point anyway, but it seems (from MN) that if that isn't your ultimate aim, you're wasting everyone's time. Or is that only for the child bearing years?

The answer is you want a boyfriend. Get yourself on on line dating.

Yes, I would say it’s called “dating” or “seeing someone”. Someone you see regularly, sleep with, do things with, regard as “boyfriend” maybe but definitely not considering moving in with etc. I’m sure there would be loads of people who would like this kind of arrangement.

Of course this comes with risks eg they may think it’s ok to be seeing other people in between so you need to work out if that is a deal breaker and be up front about it.

Why would it be a waste of time? If it’s what you’d enjoy then go for it!