Should I go to work?

[JerryGarcia]

Been in a and e all night with DD (think shes fine). Arrived 7pm, still on obs ward at 5am, no sign of leaving yet. No sleep. I'd need to leave at 12:30pm as its a half day and wouldn't be finished until 6pm. Dd was poorly the night before we came so I had already had a night of bad sleep.

I'm a teacher, if the type of work makes any difference. Not taken any days off but it's a newish job.

Should I tell my head I won't be in? Or is that not done?

I know some people go in no matter what (DH, I'm looking at you) but if you aren't programmed like that, what do you think?

So as a non-teacher, no I wouldn't.

For a start driving while sleep deprived kills more people every year than drink driving so while I'd have to get home from A&E I wouldn't want to drive again (e.g. to work) without sleep as I'd be endangering myself and others (I fell asleep at the wheel on a similar amount of sleep or lack of it).

I can't comment on how this translates to teacher world though but surely you guys must have to take time off for your own sick children / your own sickness sometimes and there are plans in place to cover a class for the day (half-day)?

Or are you saying you'd need to leave home to go to work at 12.30pm?

Sorry, bit confused about that bit...

If so, then yes I'd go if I'd be able to take this morning to sleep but if you're going to be in sole charge of DD and get no sleep then no.

Will leave hospital and be in sole charge of DD. If I go to work, I'd need to leave my house at about 12:30. I'm only teaching 1 hr today so there isn't much to cover really. Hopefully that works in my favour.

I'll phone my head when we get out of here. Waiting for DD to pee to get a urine sample but she's not peed since 11pm 😣 hopefully when she's pees we can just go straight home!

I’d stay off. Even teachers have family emergencies!

I'd go if I had enough rest.

No chance. Your daughter comes first

Firmly in the day off camp!

I’m a senior leader in a school, no way would I expect a member of staff who has been in a&e all night with their child, and is still in hospital, to come in to work.

Who would you be leaving your DD with if you went to work?

Teacher here, If you're only teaching an hour then that is easy to cover! Don't go in. You're tired and your DD may still need you.

Yes, why would be with DD if you went in?

Definitely stay home.
If your daughters unwell enough to have been in the hospital you'd kick yourself if she had to go back and you'd gone to work.

Thank you everyone. I'm terrible at just making decisions, even worse when it's whether staying off work is justified. Much appreciated.

I'm a gi in regardless person. If I can get up, dressed and keep down a cup of tea I go to work.

In your circumstances I WOULD NOT go in. You are exhausted, the children will pick up on it like magnets, will behave like absolute shits and it's times like these where you will either shout at the wrong one and have a parent complain or burst into tears in front of them.

Let your Head/Head of Dept know now.

Hope you are home soon and on the sofa dozing to what ever rubbish keeps littlies quiet for two minutes nowadays. And you will need cake. Hope too dd is feeling better.

I wouldn’t. Your dd is unwell and you’ve not slept.

This is precisely what parental leave is for, just ring in and they will be fine.

Ring in early, set some cover, then concentrate on your daughter.
Hope you get home soon.

Agree about ringing in early.

Done. Thanks again.