For context, dmil contacted dh a fortnight before his Df birthday because the gift he’d told her we were going to give was less than we usually spend and she wanted to know how we planned to top it up. We’re talking £5 less but weren’t aware she’d set us a budget. We were travelling at be time with 3 dc so her 6 messages all whilst we were travelling getting more and more annoyed with us really irritated dh. He did reply that he planned to do an Amazon voucher. Her reply “how much for?!”.
she seems to think we’re loaded. We’re comfortable but 3dc are expensive and we are about to spend ££££ on the house for necessary work. They are not poor, are retired and have a mortgage free home and 6 month old car. We have a big mortgage and 11 year old cars.
Today mil has messaged asking if we want dfil’s Father’s Day list… huh? Is that something people do? We never have. I’ve got dh a small gift from dc and I’ll buy my own dad a few craft beers but e we usually do a token thing. It’s been the same for 20 years. It feels like she doesn’t think we spend enough on them. It’s so utterly bizarre to me that I’m now wondering if we’re the unusual ones? I’ve never asked for a specific Mother’s Day gift.