Sorry if I don't word this well .
So I don't live with my children's father. Because I felt like I was looking after another child and had no support or help. And his mum was on the same level as him. Ie he gos to work the mum looks after the kids,him and house 24/7 . He gets in from work and the woman waits on him.
When I have posted about this in the past on mn its been said that it's the making of the mother. Which I think is true as she would step in for him if I said anything. So I thought I'm never ever going to be happy I'm always going to be his skivvy for 50+ years this is what he's known. So I gave up and he lives with his mum.
We still get on well ect no bad feelings me and the kids were at their house for the long weekend. As usual he's doing nothing at all his mum is waiting on him. She cooks cleans does his washing . He does not clean up after himself. Plus extra because of My kids being there.
His mum made comments such as . Im 79 years old. Somthing needs doing . Do it ya f%#king self .This happend on several occasions.
There's a bit of me that felt very bad for her. As I could see she's finding it hard. But there was also a bit that was thinking well you made him this way. You did not give a shit when I was struggling. Anyway I cleaned all the kitchen and bathroom and stairs. Wiped the skirting spindles etc.
And her son done fuck all . He thanked me for cleaning the kitchen . While he done nothing his daughter whos late 20s stays at the house half the week. As only her and her dad uses the top of the house she is meant to keep it clean. Yet there's months of dust and dirt kids dad pointed out she's not done a thing. Her bedroom is spotless but she's not done anything else all the time he's done nothing himself.
He does say things to the kids like help nanny out a bit . Because nanny finds it hard. So he knows. But he does nothing. Do I say anything to him or not. Or do I stay out of it .