To start with I am a bit 'anhedonic' if you will. I very rarely get excited or happy about anything, I am generally happy and content, it is more so that I don't experience high emotions very often. I think this is a product of my past-which hasn't been atrocious or anything but I think I've just switched emotional highs and lows off.
Anyway about 5 weeks ago I started organising my birthday which is a milestone one next month. I have hired an act at my local pub, and I've invited 5 friends along with family and my partners close family/friends. I live a long way from a lot of friends as I moved last year, so it isn't going to be a lot of people, but that I understood.
My closest and longest-term friend is a man, and he has a girlfriend of two years who I love to bits, we get on very well, are close, we've actually known one another a long time too but not been close friends until he got with her and the four of us began spending time together.
5 weeks ago they visited and I invited them to this night out for my birthday They live about an hours drive away and visit quite often. They both said they'd definitely come, they love the act I've put on, they seemed excited about it even.
The pub have said they'll reserve seats near the act for me and my friends/family and I had a msg recently asking how many. I have a group chat with close friend/girlfriend, DP and a couple of others and of this couple of others, one of them had asked could he bring another friend too, I know her and said yes but wasn't sure if she'd confirmed, so I went onto the group chat once the pub had asked and asked was Mildred coming too.
They replied saying yes she was. But then close man friend responded 'Where, when what?!' and then his girlfriend responded 'Ah crap, that's my weekend at work!' (She works in a dentist and does one weekend per month).
I responded to my male friend 'My birthday?(Date//venue)?' he said 'Ah okay!'
I asked was he still coming? No response as of yet-this was day before yesterday.
DP then messaged me saying 'You definitely told them both and they both said they were coming, I think that's really horrid of them!'
I will have to ring man friend to ask, as he's still not said anything even after I asked again saying the pub wanted to know.
DP is really annoyed with them both on my behalf.
I think perhaps It's a bit different for me than for DP as I have always been a bit of a lone wolf, although I do have a lot of friends, I don't expect them to put themselves out for me, we don't speak all the time or live in one another's pockets so to speak, whereas DP has a large group of friends who get together for events/drinks/whatever every weekend without fail and know the ins and outs of one another's lives and speak daily.
I am not sure if I should be upset by this. I know the MN thing of birthdays too-adults' birthdays just aren't so important and I do agree, I think It's more for me that it is a 'big' one and they both confirmed, knew the date and what was happening for it and it seems to be just a thing they've forgotten all about and were surprised when I asked about it, don't expect me to be bothered etc. Would it bother you, should I be saying I'm disappointed?