Please help

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I am 9 weeks pregnant with constant nausea and completely exhausted already. I have a 15 month old daughter who is very energetic and wants my attention at all times. I’m struggling to eat properly, sleep properly and I can’t get out of the house to clear my head as I am so exhausted. I feel like I just want to close my eyes and disappear. I would never harm myself because I love my daughter. Why did I allow myself to get pregnant again? I was happy when I got the positive result and then ever since I’ve got more and more unhappy. I am already taking 200mg sertraline but still feel like I want to disappear. I feel like I’m failing and my house no longer feels like somewhere I feel at ease. I never feel at ease at the moment. I don’t know what to do. I was under the perinatal team for PND for my daughter but was discharged when she turned 1 year old. I would feel ashamed if I got referred back to them as I have let myself get into this situation. Should I have stuck at one child?

Where's the dad in all this, to help you out?

He works long hours but helps where he can

Has anyone else been through this or similar? What did you do to cope?

Please call your GP, there is no shame in admitting you’re struggling and it’s better to reach out now before you spiral any further.

The first few weeks of pregnancy are exhausting, do you have any family nearby that could help? If you explain to your partner how you’re feeling could he take some leave at work so you can rest?

Thank you @SophSoSo I know I should call the GP but the shame does hold me back. I’ve also started thinking “what’s the point?” as if I am a lost cause anyway. I’ve had lots of therapy but I still feel like this - what could possibly help?

Absolutely contact your GP and midwife team- there is no shame in this. The earlier you get support in place the better for you and your family.

Do you have family and friends who could look after your DD to give you a break? Or could you put her into nursery for a morning maybe 2-3 times a week? Also perhaps contact your HV.