Sorry, just need to tell someone

[Tigerblue4]

DD is a student in Europe. Her and her friends stupidly had 15 shots over a few hours. At some point an phoning ambulance was called for her, no one could contact us as she was unconscious and our numbers are only on her phone. No one was allowed to stay with her, so friends phoned hospital later and told she was in intensive care and it was touch and go.

When she came around a nurse was sat with her and said, we didn't think you were going to make it. I'm just feeling a bit emotional/shaky about it - I have three lovely friends who've all got their own problems, so don't want to worry them and just need to tell someone.

She's back in her student accommodation. Feeling a bit upset about it, tired and hungover still. She's learnt her lesson. Luckily she has a UK friend coming to stay with her today, so she'll had someone with her all week.

Awful but be thankful she's learnt a lesson she won't repeat

Oh gosh what a scary experience! So glad she's ok. Hope you're ok as can be. When will you be able to see her? Sending unMumsnetty hugs

Gosh that’s awful you poor thing. I know you’ve said your friends have got things going on but I’m sure they would want to give you a listening ear and a hug as you would for them.

hopefully your dd will learn from this experience. She won’t be the first or last to take it too far with alcohol at that age she’s just got to count her lucky stars that she pulled through.

Terrifying for you both, thank goodness she is ok.
(( Hug )) 💐

That’s such a scary thing to happen. It sounds like she’s learnt her lesson. I’m sure most of us have done equally silly things as we grew up. Are you able to go and see her soon?

Gosh you poor thing. How scary. 😢

So glad she's OK. It's tough when your so far away and can't so anything.
A terrifying experience I can imagine x

oh wow, that's a lot to deal with. Shots are so deceiving. She won't do that again. Once you've got over the shock, you'll just be so grateful that's she's OK. X

That's a scary experience for you all

What a horrific thing for you and for her to go through.

I hope she is feeling better soon.

Aw bless you op. It must have been absolutely terrifying for you. I remember practically living on my nerves when dd was at University. She certainly lived the full 'student' experience 😨. Fortunately, she came out unscathed and is now 24 and far happier going out for a civilised meal with friends these days than getting paralytic and almost arrested. Your dc will certainly have learnt a valuable lesson and is unlikely to do the same thing again in the future.

Thanks for your replies.

She says she's not going to drink for a least a month to give her body chance to recover - we've talked about drinking less and pacing herself, as well as having snacks at the same time. She'll be back studying in the UK next year. Her uni friends here don't drink so much, also she rarely drinks out with her local friends or us, which is a relief.

Glad we didn't know Saturday night, as it's not just a case of booking a flight and going now. When we visited in April, it took airline 41 hours to approve our covid passes and without them you can't do online check in.

Yes, lessons to be learned on her part and ours in terms of carrying phone numbers of next of kin.

God op how terrifying!

A lot of phones allow people to add ICE numbered to the home screen in case of emergency or if phone is lost. Tell your dd to look up how she does so on her phone and makes sure to include the international dialling code.

How frightening. I’m glad to hear she has pulled through.

On a side note, while travel definitely isn’t quite back to normal yet I get the impression some of the delays are because of overzealous and outdated processes on airline websites. A friend recently had the issue with BA - got notification 48 hours before a flight to Germany that she had to upload Covid documents. Didn’t show as „approved“ for ages. In the end she just showed the docs at the airport and had no problems.

When you’ve both had time to recover, maybe have another serious chat about the dangers of binge drinking. Not drinking for a month doesn’t quite sound like she’s yet taken on board what’s just happened, unsurprisingly.

Thanks for your further replies. I didn't know about ICE numbered and have actually just added it to my own phone and will ask DD and DH to do the same.

I think we'll let things calm down a bit, let her have a nice week with her friend and, yes I agree, have another chat. I know she's pretty shook up right now as she realises there's a chance she could have died. She's having a fantastic time on her year abroad, but now it'll be good to get her back to the UK in the summer, so she's mixing with others who don't drink/don't drink excessively.

I think that that would have terrified me into not drinking again for a very long time!

Christ what a shock. Please talk to someone near though, you need that. Don't be embarrassed, all kids do something daft/dangerous at some point

Gosh what a terrifying experience. It does sound like she has learned her lesson though. We have all done ridiculous things as students and Year Abroad (while a fantastic experience you remember for life) really does feel like a year long party. Young people often forget that abroad the measures they put into drinks are much stronger than those allowed in the UK, and the shots are often much more highly concentrated. Glad she is ok

I'm glad she's OK. How terrifying for you. We never stop worrying about our children.
A similar thing happened to my friend at university. She's now a civil engineer. And tee total !
I agree with a pp - speak to your friends. I'm sure they'll be there for you.

I can absolutely relate to that sick terrified feeling. I've gone through it with DH (he's sorted himself out now) and teenaged DS. So glad your DD is okay

Wow. You poor thing.

As an aside I am shocked that 15 shots could do that, not that I could drink that much. I suppose European measures are probably bigger.

Try and be kind to yourself. You will process it but what a horrible thing to hear, when she is so far away. Big hug.