My mum and sister have commented that our street must be miserable, as not having a Jubilee street party.

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We live in a small cul-de-sac, (me, dh & our two teens). As they pointed out when we all met up the other day it's an ideal road for a street party, with no traffic from main roads!

Dh & I thought about organising something - but our neighbours can be so unreliable! 🤔 Examples -

We tried to organise a pre-Xmas get-together last year, with the 3 couples in the street we're closest to. Buffet food, gin & beer bought, house prepped, only for 1 couple to cancel day before and the 2 other couples on the day. ☹ To say I was upset was an understatement!

Suggested to some about going to our local pub when it first reopened after Lockdown. Only for lunch & drinks, not a big occasion. Lots of 'Sounds lovely, we'll let you know'. They never did, we went on our own in the end!

Another neighbour invited us & two other couples round last month, for the evening. She cancelled just a few hours before, saying she didn't feel well.

New Year's Eve, us & 3 other couples planned to go to a local event - one couple cancelled on the day through illness (so they said!), the other couple, apparently too tired! We just went with one other couple in the end, still nice, but not quite the same.

My sister said we need to be more pro-active with invites, we have though!! Mind you, she lives amongst a very reliable bunch of neighbours, where cancellations are a rarity! Dh said if we leave it, maybe someone else will take the initiative for once, but despite most of us having flags/bunting up, nobody has! I couldn't have faced sitting out there on our own with a table of food & drink with everyone cancelling on the day though, it would have been too humiliating! Going to sit and watch the Pageant this afternoon instead, with 🥂!

No one’s organised one on our road either.

Thedifference is l don’t care.

Our street is a cul-de-sac and we aren't having one. The last street party was golden jubilee and tbh although we know a few people I'd rather have a day to chill out than organise or attend a street party today.
Maybe they feel like me.
I don't organise social things anymore as people cancel and I cba.
No one needs to be proactive if they don't want to be.
Only thing people need to do is go to events that they have accepted invites for and not cancel last minute.

I couldn't give a monkeys. My neighbours are neighbours not friends that I want to socialise with.

Yes Stripy, that's what upsets us, the last minute cancellations with no thought to the effort made by the hosts. 🤔
As I said to my sister, ours isn't a miserable street by any means, just an unreliable one!

You don't need to justify yourself to your mum and sister. I think if anyone was that bothered about having a street party they would have mentioned it and as you say they've already proved themselves to be flaky. Perhaps they're just not that interested in getting to know their neighbours.

On my road the tables would be nicked before the food would be put out!

Maybe they just don’t like you, sorry!

We're in a small cul de sac and have nothing organised. I suspect that it's because we're all (apart from one couple) republicans at heart!

As an introvert, i would dislike a street party because I wouldn't be able to leave. I feel like it would be extended small talk. I like my neighbours and happy to chat but I don't want to spend hours in their company or give the impression that I want to do so regularly.

I worried for weeks leading up to this weekend that there would be a street party. Luckily there wasn’t, and there isn’t even a sniff of bunting.

We are in a cul de sac and had one on Friday, it's easy to organise. Everyone put a table in their own front garden and had a picnic. Someone set up some speakers and played music through those. Job done.

If they were my mum and sister I wouldn't give a shit about what they said. Why does it bother you?

This is such a non issue, why are you wasting energy on it?

Oh god I'm relieved mine didn't, judging by all the flag competition I thought there would be. They're neighbours we happened to live next to and occasionally swap pleasantries, not friends.

All the ones I've seen have been groups of elderly people having a little front garden tea parties (I live near a development of bungalows). Would your teens really have been interested in tea and cake with the neighbours. Why do your mum and sis care? Save your energy for people you really like who are reliable.

My teens and I happily joined in with a party with a few of the neighbours (the ones that werent being anti social miseries!) - happily chatted to little kids, elderly old folk and anyone inbetween. Was a nice afternoon. As in any typical road we have elderly/infirm/blind folk here who dont get out much - I hope that when Im ancient some of the younger folk will put on a similar sort of cake and crisps do that I can attend occasionally. Nothing about our party was specifically "for the Queen" really but it was a lovely afternoon, cost only a few pounds, plus we made some new friends.
So bored of seeing people say that an hour or two with the neighbours (once or twice a year!) is beyond them.

For something like a street party it isn't down to one household to organise. You'd almost need three or four different ones to divvy up responsibilities such as who provides what food, who gets the decorations, who makes sure the elderly couple at the end can get there... etc etc.
I have had your experience though. I lived on my own and invited about 12 friends, mostly couples, over for Christmas drinks party. Starting the day before the cancellations started and in the end no one came. Frankly I think unless you've broken a leg or some equally serious incident you show up.

That sounds lovely, Wafflesniffles. 😊 Yes, it's what it's all about, isn't it, it's an extended weekend so ample opportunity to all come together and celebrate. Needn't have been a big all-day thing, just an hour or two.

It's hurtful, Eadyday when that happens, isn't it. 🤔 I'd rather people said No from the outset, than cancel last minute. Barring genuine illness of course, it's so disrespectful. ☹

The person who said maybe they just don't like us, my dh plays football with two of the men most weeks, and I regularly meet one (sometimes two) of the women in our road for coffee. They just don't seem to respond to 'group things".

I don't know why my mum & sister are bothered really, it's the 'Oh you're being unsociable' whereas we're totally not, but you can't force people to participate if they're unwilling!

There were no street parties round where I live, a few houses had a bit of bunting, posters up etc. The weather was rubbish for most of the weekend, rained most of Sat & Sunday (bit cold on Thur & Fri), so probably out off any “impromptu “ garden parties etc.