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Posters who comment ‘have you posted this before?’

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Raedf · 04/06/2022 01:00

Why ask? If the poster has NC just leave them alone, they’re obviously looking for more support.

People who post multiple times are surely having a difficult time and the last thing they want is being questioned. If you don’t like to see a post similar to a previous one, wouldn’t the answer be to hide it?!

Its almost as if posters thing they will get a GCSE in being a busybody if they make it their priority.

I never understand the mentality of calling out.

Am I on my own in this thinking?

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SpindleSpangle · 04/06/2022 08:37

As pp said, I think it’s mostly used to alert other posters not to invest too much of their time, maybe?

Rogue1001MNer · 04/06/2022 09:20

Totally agree @JenniferBarkley
There have been times I was going to post on a thread but if there are a few "oh, it's you again" posters I don't bother.

Rogue1001MNer · 04/06/2022 09:24

Perfect example:-

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4562209-why-do-people-make-fun-of-me-and-stare-at-me

I've not seen previous threads, but there are clearly issues here. I won't be able to help or advise, so thanks to the two pps, I'll step away

burnoutbabe · 04/06/2022 09:30

OnlyLosersTakeTheBus · 04/06/2022 08:04

Oh I don't know about this. Say one week a woman posts about how she's struggling with an unexpected pregnancy and an unhappy DP. Then the next week under another name starts another thread about how now she's pregnant he wants her to move to X. Then a week later under another name change he wants her to move to Y. Then she name changes again and says actually she stopped taking the pill and didn't tell her DP and that's why she's pregnant. Then another name change where she's still the same age and he's still the same occupation (and still unhappy) and they don't know where to live and by then she's had 3-4 threads deleted by MNHQ but is still name changing and starting new ones - at what point can you say "hang on a minute?"

Indeed and sane appears today though it took a few days to spot it's the same thread/poster.

I think it's best to give a rough heads up to other posters that the thread is missing several pertinent facts.

Suddha · 04/06/2022 10:03

Rogue1001MNer · 04/06/2022 09:20

Totally agree @JenniferBarkley
There have been times I was going to post on a thread but if there are a few "oh, it's you again" posters I don't bother.

What if someone is posting for the first time but their problem is similar to what others have had in the past. Then a few people say “you’ve posted this before”. Even though she hasn’t. And then she gets no help because as you said people assume she’s a repeat poster and don’t reply.

Rogue1001MNer · 04/06/2022 10:30

Nothing to stop you posting @Suddha

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 04/06/2022 10:49

Suddha · 04/06/2022 10:03

What if someone is posting for the first time but their problem is similar to what others have had in the past. Then a few people say “you’ve posted this before”. Even though she hasn’t. And then she gets no help because as you said people assume she’s a repeat poster and don’t reply.

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I don't think anyone is talking about generic similar type posts but identical to the last detail stories that would be extremely unlikely to happen to two different people wh woul both be members here and post about it

No one's thinking about parenting type problems or general school issues etc

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