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To find most people just so fucking exhausting

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Changedagain876 · 03/06/2022 09:25

Maybe because I’ve moved countries a couple of times and so met quite a lot of new people in my life - and through DCs - but is it just me that only truly ever clicks with a small number of people? I find a lot of people so exhausting.

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Whatliesbeneath707 · 03/06/2022 20:31

I agree OP. Although, as I get older (almost 50), I seem to understand people better, I am also less tolerant of them! At work, most people's default setting is to take issue with everything. I think it's a bit of a trend to argue & object. I feel work drains me but I am talking for long periods, as part of my job. I am an introvert personality, so I understand why I feel like this. I do enjoy my own company more & more, the older I get.

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Changedagain876 · 03/06/2022 20:34

This thread has also made me realise I’ve probably had a lot of my people exhaustion revealed to me since I gave up drinking. I used to drink to “get through” things I actually didn’t enjoy.

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Overdon · 03/06/2022 20:54

@fussychica I agree with you, when you feel let down by previous friendships, I find I am unwilling to invest my time in pursuing new ones. I find most friendships to be transitory and transactional, and set much less store with them now.

My interests are quite niche which probably doesn't help matters, I find most people quite dull, I am polite in social setting and can hold my own, but only in small doses and then I need to escape!

Thankfully I am perfectly happy in my own company, but I could never be without certain key family members.

MrsSkylerWhite · 03/06/2022 20:58

Dinotour · Today 09:36
I have fewer people now that I enjoy spending time with for sure. Not sure if it's just getting older or an effect of lockdown. When I was younger my social life was a huge part of my life whereas now I don't have as much time for it so I guess maybe more select. But yes“

I suspect, probably, the latter. I realised during 16 months of seeing no-one but my husband (CEV, hence the isolation for so long), our teenaged son (same for him, poor kid) and our daughter and her husband, then their baby, who were living with us for a couple of months, that I didn’t miss most people at all.

focussed my mind on who really mattered to me/us.

LilythePunk · 03/06/2022 21:40

Kris02 · 03/06/2022 17:30

I can't be bothered with most people. If I had to list the things that truly bring me joy, they would be:

Books and reading
Coffee shops
Wandering around bookshops
Wandering around art galleries
Being alone with nature
Animals (especially dogs)
Silence
Natural light/sunshine

On the other hand, if I had to list the things that depress me, they would mostly involve people:

Arguing with people online
Social media
The news
Noise
Cars
Traffic jams
Out of town shopping centres
Giant new build estates, with rabbit hutch houses jammed on top of one another

I don't hate people - many of them are lovely. It's just that I'm an introvert. I don't need lots of social interaction, and I never crave it (never did). The great thing about getting older is that you become invisible. People no longer pressure you to go out and party. You can finally be who you are.

I find modern life exhausting, not just people. I increasingly loathe the noise and stress 'out there.' Every year things seem to grow louder and faster. Right now I'm being driven insane by idiots racing round the neighbourhood in cars with noisy engines and modified exhausts. And there always seem to be more ugly hobbit houses being built, which means more people, more cars, more noise and less space.

Totally agree with this.

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