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Weird Men in Your Neighbourhood

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Kris02 · 02/06/2022 14:45

Are there any weird men on your estate/in your road, etc who give you a bad feeling? I have read that you should always trust your gut response. We have an initial reaction to most people we meet, then our mind gets to work and tells us we were wrong ("come on, you mustn't pre-judge" etc). Apparently, the initial gut reaction is usually correct.

I suppose we all like to think we're a good judge, especially when we have kids. I can't think of any situations in which I've been totally shocked. Whenever someone I know (or know from a distance) has been arrested for something unpleasant (viewing indecent images of children, historic abuse, stalking, , grooming underage girls...that sort of thing) it han't been a surprise. I can only think of one occasion when I was truly shocked and disappointed.

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PatAndFrank · 02/06/2022 14:53

Weird women where I am too

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 02/06/2022 15:08

I know no weird man or woman near me. You must live in somewhere that attracts those people if so many people you know or know from distance are weird. Maybe people might think you are one of them too.

BemoreDerek · 02/06/2022 15:19

We did have one, he always gave me a bad vibe and there was something 'off' about the whole family but I could never have said quite what. When the newspaper articles started surfacing it was still a shock though, most of the family (elderly mother plus adult son, daughters and some of their partners) in court for sexual abuse of multiple children in the family.

IncompleteSenten · 02/06/2022 15:21

Not that I know of.

There's an absolute arsehole of a bloke on our street and an awful woman too but no weirdy vibers, no.

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 15:22

By 'weird' do you mean different? Eccentric?

There are a few people locally but I'm not going to rip them apart on a message board for your entertainment

They may have special needs, learning difficulties or poor social boundaries

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/06/2022 15:27

There are weird people everywhere.

If you mean dangerous men, you're probably right. Somewhere (very vaguely) around 1% of men are pedophiles and possibly upwards of 1 in 16 are rapists. It's not rare. Weirdness however, isn't the indicator you'd like it to be.

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 02/06/2022 15:30

Weird? Depends on your definition.

We have plenty of adults in assisted living here. The tend to act oddly, that being the nature of their disability. Some people are unnerved, in or even frightened, by some of the things some of them say or do.

We also have a number of younger people who present themselves in a specific way. I learned on here that they are probably 'Roadmen'. They are definitely weird, often quite threatening. Though oddly polite and well spoken if you say ' excuse me' as you try to walk passed by them.

And we also have some very local people. Born and bred, never been anywhere else. Thick Forest accent, quite a particular way of greeting strangers and friends and a very grumpy demeanour.

And then, as a contrast, we have the 'move ins' who just don't act like locals. Very odd.

Hell, we even have some known peadophiles thanks to County housing policies.

I live in a small market town to the West. Relatively isolated, very local but with lots of long term, well integrated Eastern Europeans. Everybody is weird to somebody and, on the surface, everyone is welcoming but that hides some very ingrained separatism and suspension.

Almost like this quiet, rural backwater is part of the real world.

What did you expect people to say @Kris02 ?

It's a really weird question, I think!

Deathraystare · 02/06/2022 15:33

I am sure there are some but I don't always see the same people. I sometimes see ex patients around but no one I would say is really dodgy.

Two guys that stand out but are not weird, just 'colourful characters' are two guys (? brothers/mates) on mobility scooters. They seem to be harmless. Though someone in the market told them they were not allowed there (possibly thieving/anti social behaviour) though a lot of people greet them in Westfield so I am not sure.

PiffleWiffleWoozle · 02/06/2022 15:52

I don’t see it as a weird question.

Gut feeling is a really good indicator that something is a bit ‘off’ and may be a threat. That’s different from prejudice against people who are or present differently from you.

The book ‘Gift of Fear’ is a very interesting read with some fascinating and terrifying examples.

Rubyroseyposey · 02/06/2022 15:54

Yes there is one. He is v unpleasant and has mouthed off at me several times over nothing.

Kris02 · 02/06/2022 15:58

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 15:22

By 'weird' do you mean different? Eccentric?

There are a few people locally but I'm not going to rip them apart on a message board for your entertainment

They may have special needs, learning difficulties or poor social boundaries

I doubt you could write anything that would "entertain" me or anyone else.

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thecurtainsofdestiny · 02/06/2022 16:00

I don't agree with always trusting gut response. When I moved to my area I felt nervous around a man who used to stand in the street just looking at me. It felt weird.

Transpires he has some kind of additional needs (has carers) and is perfectly pleasant. He sometimes wants a wee chat as I pass by.

SamphirethePogoingStickerist · 02/06/2022 16:01

Ooh! Nasty.

I regret having posted now. This is why I commented as I did @Kris02

LetsGoCrazyPurpleBanana · 02/06/2022 16:06

I have an odd feeling about my next door neighbour. I'm regular re my bath/ shower routine as have a child to take to school etc. I've noticed whenever I'm in the bath,his garden sensor light comes on. Could be coinsidence but I'm not sure....

Basketet · 02/06/2022 16:07

Weird as in a pervert/creep? Then yes, I have come across that. There was a known paedo living down the road from us as children. We were warned not to stop or talk to him if he was out in his front garden. More recently I've had a NDN exhibiting creepy/perverted behaviour. They are everywhere, online and in your local neighbourhood, sadly.

GirlInACountrySong · 02/06/2022 16:09

doubt away....weirdo!

NippyWoowoo · 02/06/2022 16:11

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/06/2022 15:27

There are weird people everywhere.

If you mean dangerous men, you're probably right. Somewhere (very vaguely) around 1% of men are pedophiles and possibly upwards of 1 in 16 are rapists. It's not rare. Weirdness however, isn't the indicator you'd like it to be.

Bingo

Ringmaster27 · 02/06/2022 16:19

There was a guy who used to frequent my old workplace. Pleasant enough, never rude or aggressive or anything like that, but something just felt “off” - he was just a bit socially awkward, didn’t quite fit in with the rest of the crowd, but I could never quite put my finger on what the weird feeling was.
Came out a while ago that he’d been convicted of some pretty serious online child sex offences some years ago and had changed his name and moved away from his previous area and to the sleepy little place I was living. He’s on the Sex Offenders Register for life according to the information that was circulated. So maybe that’s why he was so awkward - always on edge that someone would uncover his old life and crimes 🤯

PiffleWiffleWoozle · 02/06/2022 16:22

I wouldn’t say always 100% trust gut response, more listen to it. It’s another piece of data, isn’t it?

There’s a good reason someone staring at you inappropriately makes you feel odd, unless there is a reasonable explanation for them doing so which you might later find out.

Rachelw84 · 03/06/2022 15:56

You get strange people in every area, some hide it quite well

Where I live they’re just normal men, just innocent men 😂

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