Just pondering, I’ve got no agenda nor am I in a situation involving any PILS.
you see it time and time again on here that women are upset by nasty in laws who actively exclude them, are rude to them, don’t make any effort, etc, yet they still send gifts and cards and invite them round. And then feel hurt when none of it is reciprocated.
I’m just wondering why? It would never even cross my mind to start taking on the admin of sending gifts to my partner’s family for birthdays, Christmas, any other occasions. Of course if I genuinely liked them as people I would communicate with them and possibly invite them over if I was having a dinner party or something, but I certainly wouldn’t see it as my job to facilitate that relationship.
If they were unpleasant, I DEFINITELY wouldn’t! I’d be telling my partner they could deal with them on their own and I’d have no part in it. I’ve even seen on here people whose partner is LC/NC with their parents, and they dive in and attempt to rekindle the relationship on their partner’s behalf with the in-laws which I think is appalling, but I digress…
Also, can you imagine a man caring so much about his relationship with his in-laws or his wife’s relationship with her parents? I doubt it.