Should I go ahead?

[FragileLikeABomb]

I’ve been talking to a man on OLD for a few months. We’d both drop off radar or put plans in the air but not make any. (If ya know what I mean)

so cut to a few weeks ago, we made plans, however I got covid and we both stopped talking to each other.

He then pops back up last week and we arrange a date. The date was really good, we got on so well and basically just bounced off each other. We did sleep together but that wasn’t planned and neither expected it.

We’ve arranged another date but what’s brought me here is the fact we don’t really talk, he leaves me on “read” a bit. This isn’t uncommon but I assumed after we’d met and got on that that would improve. My question is, should I go on the next date and see what happens, or not bother? I do like him but see his lack of texting as lack of interest.

he is a bit older than me, I’m 32, he’s 47 so he could be just one of those people that doesn’t text much. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

If he ain’t texting much now it’s not going to improve. If you’re happy that he thinks this might just be a casual thing as you slept together on first date and haven’t been in touch much (which is absolutely fine if that’s your view btw, totally your prerogative) then go ahead.

If you’re looking for hearts and flowers and are in any way vulnerable then I prob wouldn’t bother.

@ShirleyPhallus thank you.

I don’t know what I’m looking for. I don’t think I want hearts and flowers but I don’t know if I want super casual. I defo know it’s way too early for me to ask What we are/what he wants. When I asked before he said “see what happens” and I’m very much the same with that mindset.

I wouldn’t bother 🙄after a few months you shouldn’t need to ask for opinions etc you should KNOW that he wants to see you and be spoiled whether you want to be or not! Or atleast have replies to your messages… I’d see it as a good thing that it didn’t get too deep and move on girl . There’s waaaaay too many fish swimming about to try and catch the same one’s attention. Go get a better one 🙂💗

Chuck him back in the sea.

I'd give him another chance. I have a friend who rarely replies to our group messages other than to confirm if she's definitely going to something we're planning. She admits she just doesn't want to keep up with it all, but she's a really good friend - always making suggestions to get together, does more than her share of the hosting and if I phoned her now with a problem, I know she'd do her best to help.

Thank you.

Maybe I’m expecting too much. Even before the date we didn’t speak much. 🤷🏻‍♀️