Rudest thing you've encountered

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If your child made an uninvited stop to a friends house after school.. and the family ate dinner and did not offer any to your child.. what would you do??

Thoughts?

I just saw the above on a group of Facebook and it reminded me of this.

Everyone in the comments was saying that wouldn't happen in my house, I'd stretch the food etc.

About 25yrs ago now, I was at my boyfriends' sisters' house and she offered us to stay for dinner. Curry and rice. Probably mutton. Fine. Mine looked lovely, except when I started eating it, the 'meat' was just bones, with no meat on 😂

Still leaves me a bit gobsmacked to this day. Not one bit of meat on the plate!

Obviously I didn't say anything! I just ate it and said how nice it was, thank you.

I'd stretch the food too.

As to your bad meal 25 years ago, I've had a few bad meals in my time. At my house , other peoples houses, cafes, pubs etc etc. I think it's a given that once in a while you get a bad meal. I doubt I'd remember the exact details of a bad meal 25 years later though!

When I was a child this situation would have meant that, depending on how close to weekly pay day it was, one of my parents might have had to skip dinner to feed a child who’d dropped in at a mealtime.

We weren't very well off either. If there wouldn't have been enough food to go round my mum would just say "she's having her tea now she'll be out again later"

And send the child home I meant to add

In my house growing up no matter who was about at dinner time they were invited to join us. We didn't have much but knew we had more than most people on our estate, because both my parents worked and my dad didn't drink so none of the money went to the pub at the end of the street.

DH house was the complete opposite you wouldn't even be offered a cup of tea. When we started going out I thought it was so odd his mum would just call him down for dinner without me. I had to stay with them for a week when the pipe burst and flooded my room in my mums house, his mum wanted £100 keep from me which was fair enough, a hotel would have been more expensive.

On the last day as a thank you I cooked a massive dinner for his family. His mum insisted on plating up for everyone. She didn't do me a plate and when I asked where my dinner was she said "I didn't think you'd be joining us - I've given all the extra's to the dog"

😲

We were making a roast last Sunday when dd2 turned up with two of her friends and my db and his family unexpectedly arrived. A roast for 6 had to stretch to a roast for 12.

If the meals were already prepared I would make the child a sandwich after confirming that they didn't already have a meal waiting for them at home.

What did your boyfriend/now husband do?

Have things improved?

I cannot comprehend how someone could behave like that. Is there something wrong with her? I cant get past this!

I once dated an absolute idiot when I was much younger. I turned up at his house one evening, I hadn’t eaten because he said he’d ordered Chinese takeaway but he hadn’t ordered one vegetarian thing knowing I was a vegetarian. I still don’t know why he did this other than to be an absolute arsehole, he hadn’t even ordered any chips! He sat there and ate his in front of me leaving me starving, didn’t offer anything else at all so I didn’t eat at all. I left the next morning, again hadn’t been offered breakfast so by the time I got to McDonald’s I hadn’t eaten for almost 24 hours.

I dumped him after this, never saw him again.

If my pre-teen DC's friends are around at mealtimes I will feed them however if this gets to be a regular thing and they start hanging around when they know dc will be having their meals then I stop offering meals and will need instead offer a sandwich or packet of crisps.
The parents of these children have never fed my children despite calling their own dc in for meals and they don't get so much as a cold drink offered on a hot day if they're playing in their garden.
Indeed, some of my DCs friends are not allowed a friend even in their house so my hospitality only stretches so far.

Sorry, meant to add that he lived an hour away from me and I had to travel home on the train so I had to wait till I got to a McDonald’s close to home. I ordered so much food, I was honestly starving. Arsehole.

I also think my FIL’s partner is one of the rudest people I’ve ever met. We went on a walk around a local national trust place with them last summer and she walked off far ahead, leaving us for dust. Barely said a word the whole time and when she was near us, she just looked at her phone like a sullen teenager. She’s in her sixties. Couldn’t have been more obvious she didn’t want to be there. I’ve never met anyone who wouldn’t at least feign interest out of sheer politeness so I was taken aback.

I dont think mine really qualifies as most rude thing I've ever encountered but it's recent and still annoying me.

My son has a friend at school whose parents never seem to actually look after him. He always at a grand parent's house because they're working during the week and won't pay for after school care. But then he is shipped off to the other set if grandparents at the weekend! So mum and dad can relax. They only get him from school 2 days a week.

For a couple years, I'd be asked if I could get him those days as they had meetings so I, as single parent, was feeding this kid dinner twice a week etc. My kids started a new club so now I'm unavailable one of those days. The other, they have a club later on at night so I can still do dinner for him. The other week, they asked if I could get him and keep him late and drop him off at his club that night (a different one from my kids and I couldnt do both). I said I would get him from school and do dinner but he'd have to come with us to my kids' club. I got a message back telling me how disappointed they were as he really wants to go to his club so would be great if my kids would agree to miss theirs so I could take him. I said no. They then said they'd get him from school and take him to his club themselves. So they were free. They didnt need someone else to pick him up and feed him etc. They just never look after their own kid.

It's just constant. If I'm not collecting my kids because they're walking, they still want me to collect him and just meet my kids at home because they dont want him walking. They're always so shocked and disappointed when they're told no, like they cant believe other people wont bend over backwards for their little darling.

Some people are just CF pisstakers.

I was only 17 at the time DH must have saw my lip wobble he told me to go up and get ready he was taking me out for dinner He then did all the dishes and clearing up while I had a cry to myself then we went out for a nice meal.

After it happened I never stayed again and DH got his own place not long after. I often have friends and my own family round for dinner, but I have never so much as made her a slice of toast in the 15 years since that day. She has a brass neck and regularly asks if she can come for a meal. I just respond "there isn't enough any extra's go to the neighbours dog".

I see her once a week when she calls to take the DC out for a few house but that is as far as the relationship goes.

This is probably not the rudest thing ever, but it's fresh in my mind. My husband told my MIL that we were expecting a baby over the phone a few weeks ago. He told her early because she knew that we were doing IVF and he didn't want to leave her hanging (he assumed that she would have an interest in whether it had been successful or not). I had told him not to tell her anything because she'd been a bitch about us doing IVF but anyway did went ahead and did it.

A few days later we visited her for the weekend. She didn't say a word to us about it. Twice, while I was out of earshot my husband asked her to mention it/congratulate me or whatever. She just sat there looking at him gormlessly.

I thought it was pretty rude, but on the other hand I now feel zero obligation to include her in anything to do with the pregnancy/baby so that's quite liberating because I know from seeing her around her other grandchildren that she only ever causes problems rather than actually helping out.

DH's cousin's wife is really rude. At family gatherings she'll sit as far away from everyone as she can, head down, on her phone & barely speaking to anyone. If she does it's one or two word answers.

She's definitely not shy (they've been married nearly 30 years FFS) or on the spectrum because she's totally different with other people who aren't his / our side of the family - even people she's just met.

Dear heavens.
What a horrible situation. What a freaking weird woman.

Mil refused to congratulate on my second pregnancy. Myself and DH were together years,own home,good jobs,married. When we told her she said "well I'm not going to congratulate you". My SIL gave me a hug and said well I am. Mil has always been horrible to me though. Told me my late father's name was a dog's name and she didn't like it,his name was James so hardly a dogs name. She ruined my wedding too but that's a different post.Im NC with her now..
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Wow some horror stories here!!
If anyone came calling when I was a child they would be told we are having tea and I'll be out later.
When my kids were younger there was one lad who spent a lot of time at ours, he was a bit of a latchkey kid and more or less looked after himself. I fed him regularly after school 😀