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Who are you friends with on social media

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Kb129102997 · 29/05/2022 19:48

Specifically Facebook.

random post I must say.

I often go through my friends list, deleting a few people.

but who do you actually stay friends with?

I have tons of old school classmates on there. People I haven't spoken to in years - I'm bloody 30. Do I really need to be friends with them? Is it the norm to be Facebook friends with old classmates?

I am not regularly in touch with many people from school, apart from maybe 2-3 people!

theh are not people I would necessarily speak to in the street either.

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N0va · 29/05/2022 20:02

I keep friends and family and some people that I was close to at school (especially if they have children) however, I have removed most of the men due to one of my former classmates being convinced of child sex offences Angry I don't post pictures or updates of my DC anywhere on social media so I am not as cautious as I would be if I did. I barely post anything at all, the odd charity share or post I feel someone else will benefit from. I much prefer reading what others are up to.

ComtesseDeSpair · 29/05/2022 20:04

Mostly people I’m at least friendly enough with to see at least once a year (plus those I don’t because they live abroad but whom I’d see much more often if they didn’t) but I have vague acquaintances and a decent handful of old colleagues and school friends there as well.

I don’t really think of it in a “do I need to have them there” sense. I neither gain nor lose anything from the latter group being there and I’d neither gain nor lose anything from deleting them - just that the latter would actively involve some effort on my part and I don’t really think about it very often. I don’t post anything especially controversial and I have a pretty fantastic life so that the - relatively little - I do post doesn’t tell anyone anything I wouldn’t want a near-stranger to know or affect me in any way negatively. And it’s nice in a detached sort of way when I see some kind of happy news posted by Laura from school.

2pinkginsplease · 29/05/2022 20:15

I have vey little friends on Facebook, think I’m at 50 and that is family and friends in real life. I have no randoms , no one from school that I don’t talk to or see in RL. And no work colleagues apart from 1 who I’m friends with,

im pretty selective and delete people if we’ve not kept in contact in RL.

Imnotahippo · 29/05/2022 20:15

I binned anyone who was my mothers flying monkey
i don’t have family on there either
anyone who’s died (bar one person)

my rule is,if I saw you on the street and wouldn’t be happy to see you and have a nice chat,then I delete

EcoCustard · 29/05/2022 20:18

i only have about 25 Facebook friends and all of which I have unfollowed in the last year after a clear out. I am only on Facebook for a few hobby groups and study groups. I never post stuff unless in those private groups. And I don’t have much interest in seeing the stuff people post. I did ditch it for a while but the study groups can be helpful

Seedoftime · 29/05/2022 21:25

I have 1 cousin, 10 school friends (three different schools), 20 Uni friends, 13 antenatal club friends (who I've never met in real life but know far more about their cycles and bodily functions than anyone else on my list!) 18 who I've met through baby groups/ school who I also regularly see and 2 ex colleagues.

That's more than I thought! Photos and posts are shared with only half of school and uni friends who I keep in touch with.

LadyFlumpalot · 30/05/2022 09:41

I have four friends on Facebook. About a year ago I made the decision to delete everyone except my immediate family from Facebook, lock down my profile and use it as a place to keep up with my hobby groups only. I can't stress enough how great the improvement to my mental health and general mood has been. Cannot recommend it highly enough.

KangarooKenny · 30/05/2022 09:44

I have one relative, and I’d like to get rid of him really as I’m not interested in what he’s having for dinner. I use it to follow bands and local stuff.

Suprima · 30/05/2022 09:51

Old classmates, my mum’s friends and my family.

I never post anything, I don’t use it as ‘social media profile’. I keep it because my mum likes to tag me in things when we go out together and it makes her happy. I also have a few local buy and sell groups that it’s useful for.

I am going to cull the classmates soon.

Chishnfips · 30/05/2022 10:10

Friends I've met from travelling and at festivals over the years so they're not local to where I live and I don't really see them all the time. I only use messenger to get in contact with people directly. I don't post and never read the news feed.

brokengoalposts · 30/05/2022 10:26

I was in my late 30's when Facebook launched so who I wanted to be in touch with from my youth was easy to control, I've often wondered how people who grew up with it would control that. I'd probably delete anyone I wouldn't speak to in the street. Anyone you think were circumstantial acquaintances rather than friends, get rid. I had a good clear out of old work colleagues a while ago and now rarely add anyone from work. I don't t hi no I've had a new friend in over a year.

brokengoalposts · 30/05/2022 10:27

*don't think

MrsSkylerWhite · 30/05/2022 10:27

No one. Have FB for marketplace.

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