Have no one

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Going through the worse time of my life and not one single person in my family wants to help. No friends because of life circumstances. Well a few but none I can turn to. I just can't believe it really. But then I kind of can. I'm desperate.

I think there's something wrong with them mentally. They're so hard and cruel

I don't know who to turn to. Can anyone help please? I can't go on like this.

Could you chat to Samaritans? Or see a counsellor? Unfortunately sometimes families are not helpful and can make things worse. Sending you good wishes.

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Thank you. I've tried Samaritans but I need something more. I just need to talk face to face to someone but there doesn't seem to be anyone

OP, I’ve recently been through similar with my family. My parents are mid-70s so old but not that old. They literally don’t give a shit. It makes all the time I spent with them in the past, all out family memories seem worthless.

Its hard, it really is

OP, you can self refer for therapy on NHS. You will get six free sessions. Some offer face to face., some offer Zoom, so online face to face, and some do phone or messaging. You can choose which. And some also offer group face to face therapy sessions.

There are waiting lists, but it is definitely worth getting on to the list. Meanwhile, just draw on all the help you can get - phone calls with Samaritans, chatting here and on MH forums, a talk with a local vicar or priest if you think that might help.

I learned there is no point in wishing family were more supportive than they are. Just get professional help instead. As for friends, the truth is, most people have enough burdens and little space for other people's. I always turn to friends when I want to take a break from my worries, so rather than discuss them, I use meet ups with friends to have fun and forget them. That keeps the friendships in tact and gives you a bit of headspace. Would this work for you?

Dontpicktheflowers that's exactly it, they don't give a shit and it's breathtaking. Very very hard to understand and take

Thanks Shakeup. Interesting what you say about friends. I get that

Yes it’s most definitely breathtaking. You’re dealing with something truly awful and then have to deal with family not caring on top of that, double whammy. Their silence actually makes it worse. Perhaps is because they feel helpless, but how hard is it to pick up the phone?!