dp and I have been talking about marriage recently. Some of his good friends came to our house for a some drinks last night and I was asking them about their weddings for ideas and one of them blurted out ‘make sure you propose properly this time’ and they all laughed. I asked what they meant and they said he’d proposed to an ex and the ‘funny’ story that went along with it. All while dp was sitting red faced at the table. When his friends left I asked him why he hadn’t told me in 2 years of a relationship that he’d proposed to a woman before, he couldn’t answer. I’m now feeling insecure and a bit upset. Obviously people have pasts, divorces etc but he wasn’t upfront with me early on and now I’m hearing it second hand I’m hurt. Knowing if we get engaged it won’t be the first time he’s asked someone to marry him has made it a bit disheartening. Possibly the shock but it would have been nice if it was the first time for us both and now I’ll be wondering how he proposed to her, what ring it was and all that palava. I know she cheated on him and was violent so it didn’t last more than a year but I wish he’d told me. Am I being silly for feeling like it’s ruined a special moment for me? How can I move forward and not let it upset me?