When you're the poor relation of a friendship

[amandadada]

I have always been good at being thoughtful and resourceful, at buying the clever vintage personalised present because we couldn't afford the grand gestures .
But I am struggling to repay the kindnesses of a friend who has been good to me, taking me for days out etc
They are very wealthy and we are not.
I just wonder how to repay the kindness

Anyone else in this position?
Always the lesser well off friends?

If your friend is taking you out on days out, she really won't want paying back for her kindness, your company will be worth every penny to her. Thats my experience, I would hate or think my friend thought they needed to repay me.
Just being friends means you do things for eachother, some are financially, some are emotional, supportive etc.

Hi!
I have been in both sides, from what you mention your friend has the means and enjoys your company so much that is willing to pay for your days out together, and I am assuming your friend is fully aware of your situation, if that's the case I would just enjoy your friendship. A good friend and the emotional support they bring is worth more than monetary compensation.
If you'd like to show your friend your gratitude maybe organize a picnic or a thoughtful gift like you've mentioned you've been doing and write an heart get letter explaining your love for the friendship and gratitude and acknowledgment of your friendship.

I can relate. With immediate family I take it. With friends I just would stop the days out. There's a shelf life on being generous.

Heartfelt letter* sorry! Missed spelled

Small things. Cook a meal or cake or collect some flowers from your garden.

Can you offer babysitting in return?

I wouldn’t think she minds paying for you. Your friendship is probably all she wants. If it was the other way around, I’m sure you’d pay for her?

or if she offers, check she’s sure