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Made a fool of myself in front of my boss - how can I feel better?

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Bookridden · 26/05/2022 19:54

New boss who I'm desperate to impress. Been working really hard, going over and above etc, all going well until today. I wanted to do something nice for my lovely team, so I told them they could flex off early (using their own time, not work time). All targets met, no detriment to business, just trying to give a little perk to my staff. However, this is generally not allowed, so I told my team to keep it quiet. Unfortunately, someone from another team overheard, and immediately told my boss.

On being confronted, I said there must have been some crossed wires/misunderstanding. I went back to my staff, explained that I couldn't allow them to go early because I was breaking the rules. They were fine, they knew I was trying to do them a favour, they were more fed up with the person who'd run tales.

However, I'm mortified that after months of working so hard, I made this error. I'm sure my boss knew that I lied, and that it wasn't really misheard. I wish I had had the balls to be honest and admit I was breaking the rules to do something nice for my staff. It's all OK on the surface, but I'm so upset and annoyed with myself. What an idiot. Please help me feel better. Be gentle, I know this is my fault. I worry that I've permanently damaged my relationship with my boss by showing myself to be untrustworthy (which I'm normally not).😭

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SniffMyWhiffyQuiffy · 26/05/2022 20:02

Learn from it and don't be dishonest. I'd be cross that you have made the person who reported you unpopular with your team
That's a horrible thing to do to save your skin

onepieceoflollipop · 26/05/2022 20:08

I think in your position I would go and tell my boss the truth and explain that I panicked a bit when they confronted me. Then you can draw a line under it and move on.
also bigger picture it’s not always a good idea to do something nice for the team if it breaks the rules. IME it can lead to bigger issues for example staff asking you to do the same again, or break a different rule to benefit them. As a leader/supervisor you do have to generally keep on the right side of the rules and lead by example. Doing favours sometimes looks like you are a bit needy/want to be liked for the favour. Its better to be a tiny bit distant - friendly but not friends.

Johnnysgirl · 26/05/2022 20:09

I'm confused about the "flex" thing. Do your team work flexitime or not?
You lied to your boss about having told your team they could use their flexitime (why would this have been a treat? ) and then told your team you actually weren't allowed to have said it at all?
Oh dear...

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