DD is 4 in a few months and we’ve always had the most beautiful bond. Honestly she was so loving towards me up until a few weeks ago. I have an 8 week old baby which I’m sure is the root of the problem, but she absolutely dotes on baby dd and tbh she’s so demanding these days poor baby dd spends most of the time in the bouncer ☹️
When she wants something she just barks it at me if a an awful tone, no please or thank you. I have to ask her ten times before she will do something (brush teeth, eat dinner etc) and if I so much as sound frustrated she cries and says she wants her dad.
a few days ago she had an accident under MIL’s care. I had to take her to hospital but she was so angry at me (even though I had nothing to do with the accident!) it actually broke my heart. She was kicking and hitting me, telling me to get away etc. in the end my MiL took her to the hospital because she was just screaming at me. So much so that her voice is still hoarse!
This evening she was battling to go to bed. I have to ask her 100 times to get into bed (we cosleep) and then she started crying saying “when are you going to stop being angry with me, when are you going to stop being mean” ☹️ Asking to sleep with MIL (who lives with us but is moving out next week) and wants her dad again (he’s at work). I honestly feel so heartbroken by this I’m a little worried I’m developing ppd as I just feel completely empty all the time now. And so tired. DH doesn’t help much.
a few things I think is causing it:
-dh travels a lot, he’s just come back after over 3 weeks away and is going away again on Monday to the US.
-new baby dd
-MIL, SIL and their pet were living with us and which was temp however ended up being over 2yrs. I finally put my foot down and they have moved out (well MiL leaving next week). Paranoid me thinks MIL is poisoning her mind (we don’t have the best relationship, I know she hates me) although I know that’s pretty far fetched. I’m just worried she thinks everyone is leaving her.
-starting reception, she has a lot of anxieties surrounding this and absolutely hates going to nursery. Screams and cries at drop off and that’s every day almost since September and hasn’t really improved.
what can I do?? I try my hardest to give her a wonderful life. I don’t shout, I had a pretty sad childhood so try my hardest never to shout at her or be horrible to her but I am really struggling here. As I say I am mostly on my own so don’t have much help! I’m so terrified I’m messing up her childhood 😔