To tell ex about drink driving

[RamSyder]

Neighbour at no.4 has been disqualified from driving for 2 years for drink driving. Talking with friend at no.3 her DH thinks that he should tell the ExDH of no.4 as they share custody of 2DC. Me & no.3 have told her DH we don’t think it’s his place to get involved but he’s determined to tell him when they’re meeting this Saturday. His rationale is that if she drives whilst banned with their DC in the car he becomes involved (but we’ve no reason to suspect that she will do that). Should he tell her ex or stay out of it?

Unless you think it's an absolute certainty that she will drive , keep out of it . How do you know she hasn't told exdh?

I would imagine her ex husband is aware to be honest. I received a drink driving conviction 8 years ago (1 year ban). My children were all adults and I only had 1 grandchild at the time. I am alcoholic. I have not picked up a drink in 7 years and I accept this as essential. So my view is I think it should be dropped or woven into the conversation between the two men. If this neighbour is alcoholic she will not be able to stop herself drinking and this could certainly affect her children.

Id wait to see if she drives while banned. If so, tell the ex and report to the police. If not, MYOB.

If it were a neighbour, I'd stay out if it. But it sounds like the ex is a friend of the guy at no 3. So would I talk about this with my friend? Yes I probably would.