How long would you like to live?

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I don't know why but today it popped into my mind about the length of my life. It then got me thinking about how long I would like to live for. I personally would like to live to 100 as it would be great to see all the changes and it's a nice round number. I am currently mid 40s a Grandma and feel so old.

Over to you.... how long would you like to live?

Until I do not enjoy quality of life. So presumably aged 80. I am 58 now and of late have decided to do way more yoga and walking and am concentrating on a very healthy diet so I can live healthily for as long as possible.

As long as possible to spend time with my kids and grandkids.

I find life hard (not because my life is bad - I'm very lucky in many ways - but I find generally navigating life tough) so not an 80-90er here. The thought of another 38 years on top of the 38 I've done just seems horrifying.

Also - I don't want children and have long-term health issues so I can't see it being much fun if I got really old.

I work in a go surgery and found myself asking that question to my colleague one day not that long ago.

I notice that around 78 peoples body's are old enough for life to be uncomfortable in some ways ( not everyone I understand) but as an average.

I think 80 would be the max for me.

Both of my grandmother's didn't make it to proper old age - one died of cancer aged 58 and the other in her early 70s. That seems too soon. Both my grandads made it to 91 living independently without the need for care, both passed away after short illnesses. DH's gran is 90 and still independent although no longer driving. If I can aim to be like any of them then 90 would seem like a very good age to me, if my quality of life is rubbish I'd rather go earlier like my grandmothers.

The world is getting worse very fast, which doesn't make me want to linger. Probably 70 to 75. I do know a man in his mid-eighties who before Covid still did paid creative work at a high level. He's in great shape.

**Onlyyouknowwhy · Yesterday 22:10

As long as possible. I'm the only person who's said this**

No you aren't - please see my earlier post 😬

Until this Autumn and Winter when I cannot afford to heat my home.

My gran (mum side) died in her early 60s, and my mum was adamant that it was ok as all her kids were doing well.
My sister is fine.. home owner, good job, marriage and kids.
Me and my brother... both single with mental health issues and unstable housing.
I know my mum worries about us both.

I’m 55 in August. I’m utterly sick of working. Been doing so non-stop since I was 21, part time before that.

I had a heart attack at age 51. Either the next one is the one that kills me or I find out I’m terminal with something and I live like a greedy drunken queen for 6 months.

I don’t want Dementia or machines. A better question would be ‘how would you like to die’. Both y parents are over 80, super active and pretty healthy. Ain’t no taking them down anytime soon.

I will soon be 65. I do experience some poor mental health which leaves me with certain challenging thoughts. Also have some physical issues. Oh I want to be happy at a hundred lol! This part of my life is where I live it for me thanks. So I'm going to explore all my interests - my garden, vintage and antique Fairs etc, learning to paint and draw, make jewellery and I'm going to go on as many trips as possible. Oh a little sports car would be good ha! For me and my Cavalier spaniel. So much to choose from. Treat my 5 grandchildren, be around when they are young adults. Be the 'old yin' in the corner. I think you will get the gist 🙂

As long as I am mobile, able to look after myself, and with all marbles intact.

Who on earth wants to end up needing carers/with dementia?

I think 77 would be fine, any older and I'm sure I would be getting less capable and nearer dementia (if not already there!) All the women in my family have had dementia as they approached 80 onwards, it's a very sad end.
I'm 63 already and very much enjoying life, but happy to contemplate a dozen or so more years and then that's it.

Bit of a daft question. I could break my neck tomorrow or suffer a brain injury or be struck down with a painful, debilitating disease or develop early onset alzeimer’s, in which case I probably wouldn’t particularly want to live another 50 or more years,as I would if I was lucky enough to be healthy for the rest of my life.

I already have two chronic illness, so no more than 60. As long as my health remains reasonable. I would love to see/ hold a grandchild.

I know full well, it is not my choice to have grandchildren but nevertheless I can want it.

No more than 80. Less if I'm immobile or ill. I would be miserable if I couldn't walk, drive, and be independent. To me, that's a pointless existence. I do not wish to be a burden to my family and I certainly do not want to end up in a care home.

I am 41. The other day I was musing that if I die at 50 that will be ok. I don't have kids and although I like my life I feel I've done a lot and don't have the money to do anything more.

I think I will struggle to fill the time when I'm old. I look at elderly people shuffling along and I just don't want that for me.

Around 85. My DP1 is in remarkably good health at 70, although takes statins. DP2 probably won't make 80.

Due to some unhealthy lifestyle choices, and partly due to genetics- I probably won't make it to that age.

Health is more important than age.

My grandparents were generally all fit and well up until their late eighties/early nineties and all lived independently in their own homes until the last couple of months of their lives when they lived in care homes.

Ideally for me, I wouldn't live in a home so I'd like to die in my sleep before it reaches that stage. I wouldn't want to live with anything like dementia though, that really scares me.

I had children later in life (early 40s) and so I’d like to be there for my own kids as they bring up their families…as a help though, not as another person for them to look after. So 90 minimum…assuming no health issues. If I’m going to lose my marbles however I’d want to go before it becomes noticeable. The last thing I want is for my kids to have to look after me and remember me in that state.
also…I mean….even with a decent ish pension….you’ll run out of money pretty quickly. I’d like to be in a position to leave money for my kids (and not have it wasted on care homes).

I had DC young so when I am mid 70’s they will be close to mid 50’s. So 78 would be a good age. I don’t want to be old and worrying about one of them dying (obviously people can die at any age but all things being equal).

I’m 53 this year and another 25 years sounds about right to me. I’ve done a lot of the things I wanted to do, but still have a few left that would be nice to do. But overall I am tired already. Life is bloody knackering! So I don’t really fear dying. It will be the ultimate rest. I definitely don’t want to cling on for years on end.

In my family, most people have passed late 70’s/early 80’s. Mostly after short illnesses. We’ve been lucky that no one’s had dementia or any type of life limiting illness. If I followed that pattern I’d be happy.

At least 85. And my husband too. We got married 3 weeks ago and id like to get to my 25th wedding anniversary as my first husband died 100 days before our silver wedding anniversary 10 years ago. My parents are 86 and 90 and my husband's 94 and 97!

My Mother is mid nineties, immobile, incontinent and in a care home. I do not want to wish that on my kids. It's been (and still is) hell, seeing such a vibrant and articulate lady decline. I hope laws are changed and I can choose when I want to go. I don't want to go further than 80 - 85.

As long as I'm healthy. I don't want to end up sat housebound needing looking after.

I'd like to see the kids get to the point where they're independent (e.g. Left home, working, etc)

Most women in my family have lived a long, independent life but I expect that will change with me because my life is really different to theirs (more city based, office job compared with them being in the countryside). Tbh, if I didn't have the kids I would sell up, buy a van and spend all my money doing cheap, fun, outdoor stuff until I had no money left.