Split up with partner-do I still take ds on holiday?

[embarrassed12]

So me and my partner have split up! We’ve got a lot of problems in our relationship. We just wasn’t working out at all, I recently went in a night out with friends. So drink was involved and I came home and started an argument about how bad we have been and that’s the end of our relationship.

we booked our first family holiday in February which we are due to go on in 5 weeks!

im heartbroken we aren’t going as a family. I don’t want my ds to miss out. I know he’s only 3 but he asks everyday “are we going on holiday soon” So in planning on taking him myself. I’ve got no friends of family that can get the time off work and come with me. So it’ll just be me and a 3 year old!

has anyone else done this? Any tips advice? Should I still take him?

My happiest holidays have been just me and my sons. No husband who wants attention or needs pleasing.

you will LOVE it.

My favourite bit is that I can go to bed when the boys do, and relax and read and chill. So so happy being present for them. What worries you the most about going?

What type of holiday and where?

100%!

@ivykaty44 were going to Majorca!

Are you worried that you will be lonely? Your little boy will LOVE it.

@LHReturns honestly I’m not sure what I’m the most worried about! There’s a million things going through my head to say we shouldn’t go but I don’t want to break his little heart! He’s so so excited for this!

I understand if you haven’t done it before. My husband and I are together - but her doesn’t always come on our holidays. when he is there he wants my attention too, and babysitters, and meals when boys are in bed. I find that hard - trying to please everyone. But when just the boys and me I feel so free.

This is your reality now
Embrace it or you will regret it

That sounds fantastic! Why wouldnt you go? You'll have a great time and your DS will love it.

@embarrassed12 I’m so sorry that your relationship has ended. I get that it is painful and going on this holiday was supposed to be all of you as a family.

It must be hard for your son too. This holiday is important to him. I think it would break his heart if you cancel the holiday.

My dd still talks about the holiday we went on last year and I really believe that it was really good for her to have that experience.

I think it will do you and your son good to have a holiday together, a really positive experience.

My best holidays have been with just me and DD!

partner like his own space doesn’t like going on holiday everyone wins!

I hope to take her again at some point later this year.

you’ll have the opportunity to make some great memories with ds and have lovely bonding time

I was a single parent most of my dc's life so holidays on our own were a reality! I can't say they were always easy but I look back now on every one fondly and the bonus is you get to do what you want without having to worry about arguments with your partner etc!

Go. We take our 8yo away separately. He loves it.

Of course you should! I'm a single parent and I've been taking DS abroad on my own since he was 2.

Keep your expectations reasonable is my advice. You'll still get the tantrums etc that you normally get at home so don't focus on everything being "perfect" and you will really enjoy it!

Sorry your relationship has broken down. Definitely take your DS! He'll love it. If your ex isn't coming, you will need him to write you a permission letter to take DS abroad. It's better to be safe than sorry at the airport.

It will be lovely! One less person to please! Definitely go.