Did anything really tragic happen at your school?

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I’ve spent today thinking about a murder that happened when I was at school over 30 years ago. I think it’s on my mind partly because it happened when I was sitting my GCSEs and DS is doing his now but also it’s been in the local news that another loosely connected child murder may finally be solved.

A boy from year 3 went missing and he was found murdered in a nearby derelict house. In the year prior to that, two other children had been killed in tragic circumstances so it was a really horrible time for the school community. Things got worse when a year 5 boy was arrested for the murder and spent months in custody, missing all his GCSEs. Many of us then had to give witness statements as we knew the arrested boy well. It took over 20 years for the actual murderer to be convicted and unfortunately he’d gone on to murder more boys from my school by then.

In all the years my DCs and friend’s DCs have been at school, they’ve (thankfully) never had anything like this. There’s been fights, teenage pregnancies, minor drug offences etc but nothing on this scale. Did anyone else have something really tragic happen when they were at school.

@FuchsAndMöhr yes that's right

Initials LT?

This is just so sad. Poor lad and so sad for his family x

I think I went to your school @Reallyreallyborednow

The school resource officer at my high school took a child he detained back to his apartment and propositioned them for sex. She was fighting and he was supposed to take her to the juvenile detention center. I found this out when I was subpoenaed to court because I reported him for his inappropriate behavior when he caught me skipping. After this broke the entire school administration resigned. They knew.

Not that I knew about at the time. Since then one of the sports coaches has gone to prison, and four former pupils have likewise ended up in prison. One is facing allegations that if they come to court will mean jail too.

Two lads in my year (year 9 or 10 at the time, can’t quite remember) got arrested and charged with armed robbery and were sent down. They broke into a family home and held the dad at knifepoint, they stole all of the families Xmas presents and a load of cash.

Both went to young offenders and some drippy girls in the school who had been dating them spent the next several years writing to them in prison like it was loves young dream to be with an incarcerated teenage boy.

I wasn’t privy to much more detail as I was probably quite naive and sheltered during my school years and found dangerous people like that rather intimidating.

I went to infant school with a lovely little lad who’s mum was murdered by her ex partner and her body dumped in waste land near to the school. I was too young at the time to be exposed to any details of it, only remember my mum telling me that he didn’t have his mummy anymore so I needed to be extra kind to him.

When I was about six I remember a boy I now presume must have had cancer- puffy from steroids and bald ect. Sickly looking. One day he was there in assembly as usual and the next day he was just gone. 😢 he wasn’t in my class he was in the adjacent class but it was clear he had passed away.

A girl in my year jumped from the top storey of a car park when I was taking my O Levels (that dates me!)

A boy in my class died from glue sniffing when he was just 16.

Another girl in my year had an abortion when she was 12 and told the school she had been off because she had had food poisoning. The teacher kept on and on asking whether it was Salmonella and in the end she screamed at her that her baby had been stolen and ran out of the class sobbing her heart out. It was awful. She never came back to our school. I still think about her.

A girl in my year died of Luekaemia.

She came into school in her wheelchair when she was on palliative care to say goodbye to her friends

She had a memorial service at the school after she died, and her closest friends were allowed to have leave from school to go to the funeral.

I knew of her, but didn’t really know her and it was still really sad.

She would have been 14/15

Many years ago a schoolboy friend of mine, his dad was involved in a road accident. He was a Jehovahs Witness and he refused blood transfusions which would save his life. He ended up bleeding to death.
It must be nearly 50 years ago now and I've never forgotten how, for the sake of religion, a young wife was left widowed and 3 (or maybe 4) young children left fatherless.
Never got my head round that

@tootiredtoocare you and I were in the same year at school. I often think of them and was just telling DS about it recently.
I can never understand how it took that for somebody to realise that letting delivery trucks into school while kids were on break was a bad idea.

It was before my time but we lived next door to the boys school and my mum was traumatised by that incident, always so afraid when we went on school trips.

My school had a tragic accident.
A coach crashed in the alps killing some of the kids, including one of the teachers daughters.
Absolutely horrific.

I was lucky in that nothing really nasty happened at any of my schools. There were a couple of boys in my secondary who were orphaned during the tsunami in 2004 was it? Tragic that they went away on a family holiday and came back alone. I didn't know them personally but I remember being told in assembly and them coming back to school. V sad.

Surely you only need to report something once then accept the decision given.

You point out that people are free to start threads like this and post on them. MN is happy to let it stand & emailed me to confirm this.

Equally, I and anyone else are free to post our concerns without it being termed 'censorship'. It's literally how the forum works.

Yes but repeatedly?

Surely you only need to report something once then accept the decision given.

No decision had been given (I reported at night, then early in the morning)
I reported more than once as I was reporting several posts.
I hope that helps clarify it for you.

MN have let it stand. I still think it's inappropriate & gruesome. I do also acknowledge the effect sad events have had on those affected, even tangentially (and did earlier). I just don't think that trumps respect for the people who died & their families, and their right to own & tell their stories.

See post below. I reported different posts.

For me, this thread is one of the worst I've seen on MN

Reconsidering being on MN or at least taking a break.

You seem to be spending a lot of time on a thread you don’t like, just to clarify that for you. You have your answer now so maybe give it a rest.

Yes, I'll always remember it. When I was 7, a girl, who had a heart condition no one knew about, dropped dead in the middle of the lunch hall during lunch time. It was horrific and I still think of her family to this day.

Agree.

Can remember a girl a year older than me had anorexia nervosa and she didn't turn up one day for school, she was always warming herself up under the hand dryers in the girls loos, but it was only when she hadnt attended for a year we found out she had actually died

Another girl played chicken (run across busy road) she got hit by a car and broke her leg so badly and ended up with her foot being amputated...