What is the worse things about your relationship

[jadey1991]

Very curious to what people have to say.

I can defo say a relationship is the hardest thing.

A relationship really shouldn't be hard. If it is, it's not the right one. I hope you're OK.

Honestly, the worst thing about mine is that he's a bit untidy. He'd say similar about me. Together many years now.

It's a breeze. I wouldn't have married him otherwise.

His snoring….he says I snore too other than that the usual small irritations but I know he has his too…been together 25 years so not surprising

The worst thing about mine is our slightly differing attitudes to stuff like cleanliness. Ie, I’ll use all the pint glasses and leave them places and that irritates him.

But it really is the worst thing. He pulls his weight in absolutely everything- household stuff, finances, childcare, lie ins, it’s all very evenly split.

i read some of the threads on here with horror. Relationships shouldn’t be hard. Walk away if it is.

My hubby doesnt wont me 😢it puts a real strain on our relationship

Lack of intimacy. It used to be all good on that front but it just vanished in our early fifties. We’re probably both to blame, neither of us initiating and now it’s been so long it would feel awkward.
Apart from that, our relationship has actually got stronger over the years, we’re real soul mates.

His complete and utter incompetence when it comes to cleaning up after his arse. It sends me raging, although I am borderline OCD when it comes to cleaning.

Other than that, he is really an amazing guy. Treats me well, respects me and makes me absolutely belly laugh until my sides hurt.

@DramaAlpaca I'm fine hun, I just think we clash a lot because we are Scorpio's.... I've been with my IH 15 years and we have 3 beautiful children together but we can both be stubborn🤦🏽‍♀️

It really shouldn’t be that difficult OP. I’m sorry you’re having such a hard time. What is it that you’re finding so difficult about your partner?

To answer your question, my DH can be untidy, but I adore him and it doesn’t bother me (in fact, there are times when I’m having a lazy day, so it’s handy that he turns a blind eye to my occasional mess too).

@yummyymummy1982 oh no I'm sorry to hear that hun m.

@yummyymummy1982 I do hope your okay

@DogsAndGin to be honest it's his stubbornness. I mean I know I'm stubborn but wow is he stubborn. It's so difficult to speak to him when he is stubborn so I just leave him to it until he realises I'm right.

But stubborn about what? Which channel to watch? What to have for dinner? Or something more serious, for example making decisions which control you or make you do things which you don’t want to do.

He's a bossy boots. He's quite senior at work and I sometimes have to tell him to wind his neck in as he's not Head of our household!

That we never have enough quality time together. I really enjoy his company and would love to go away for a few weeks just the 2 of us but no chance between work and our DCs.

literally nothing - been together 10 years

@DogsAndGin stubborn as can't admit when he is wrong. I.e today I told him today that he is a messy shit, he can't put away what he used or clean up after himself.. then his answer was not so you... like dude admit your stubborn just say sorry and clean up your mess. Don't get me wrong he is lovely but he makes it difficult sometimes. I think I'm just on one of those rants today.

@MollyRover I have to agree with you on this. It's the same here. We have 3 kids together 13,7 and 5 months.. since having kids we haven't done nothing together. Just seems to be the same routine everyday.

@chickyellowcute that's good. Glad all is well with your relationship

@LBOCS2 not gonna lie this could also be apart of my problem too. Because he is the three older male in the household he feels like he is the boss. But I put him straight. You can be the boss to your kids but not me!

The long wait for diy projects to be started. But he’s perfect in every other way so I forgive him. And god knows he cuts me slack!

He always wants to fix things.

If I am upset, he wants to fix the problem. Sometimes I just want a hug, not to be bombarded with ways to solve it.

Snoring.
Not cleaning effectively, in fact a lot of what he does is slap-dash because he doesn’t want to do it.

I think the worst thing is finding time for each other. Both love each other very much but between parenting and working there isn’t much time for it. We do need to make more of an effort on both sides though.

Also his biggest downfall is he doesn’t move things to hoover underneath. Like the cat bet, just bloody lift it and hoover under it occasionally?! It drives me mad. He also doesn’t clear clutter from the kitchen sides. Just washes the dishes and pops a washing on and tells me he’s done the kitchen. I need to cut him some slack he does try but after all these years you’d think he would have learned 😂

@BlueKaftan aww how lovely that's sweet