I was at a sports event with a large group of club mates this morning. It's a beautiful day here and after we'd had ice creams the group broke up to continue their plans for a sunny Sunday.
Since DH died I often find I have no plans for such days, couple friends are busy with each other, plus I've found, that now I no longer slot into their couple world, I don't get included in things I would have gone to with DH.
This happened today. The two couples who DH and I would have said were our best friends had plans together and didn't include me. I didn't know why they do it, but it's happened a few times now, I try not to mind and have expanded my circle to include a few single people (previously I was probably just as guilty)
Anyway, I'm busy building my new life so I asked the only single person there if he's at a lose end and did he fancy a beer in the sun? (one of my favourite things to do with a sunny Sunday afternoon). Not someone I know well, we're often at the same events, but I wouldn't call him a friend. He was very kind, would love to, but has to go home to log on to work this pm.
Which could be true or could be an excuse.
So have I embarrassed myself?. Does he think I'm throwing myself at him? I genuinely just thought he might be as bored as me 😆
He said, next time, any other day he'd love to, so I shall leave it in his court.
If it makes a difference, I'm early 50s and he's a few years younger.
Then again, he did say "next time" so can I ask again?!