It my first wedding anniversary and I feel sad

[bloodywhitecat]

No one has said "Happy anniversary!". No cards, no nothing. I understand why. He died 3 months ago but I would love someone to acknowledge the day.

be strong lovely. so sad for you. happy anniversary ❤

Happy anniversary.

You sound like such a nice person op. Xx

How the rest of the day goes well.

I will say a prayer for you tonight.

Aw bless. I'm welling up here for you.

I'm so sorry to hear about your DH. You clearly loved him a lot.

My advice going forwards is to try and celebrate on this day with family, whomever is around. Do something, do anything and celebrate the day!

Maybe the others are feeling very nervous about how you might take it if they did offer you a "Happy Anniversary" under the circumstances and that's why they haven't said it so far.

I came home to a card from a wonderful friend, it made my day. It makes it feel like the wedding really did happen and it was something to celebrate, I know that sounds stupid but sometimes it feels like it never really happened. Like we never really met. We were really happy together. When we first met he was adamant he wasn't going to marry again but then he changed his mind (long before his diagnosis), I wasn't bothered one way or the other at first but soon grew to want to marry him and I am so glad we got that chance and were able to have such a lovely day and a wonderful few months before his tumours started to grow again. The stroke just before Christmas was a really cruel blow but even that he bore with great fortitude. He never complained once. Never asked "Why me?". Even at his sickest he still put others first.

I'm so glad one of your friends sent a card. It sounds like you've had a lovely day reminiscing by the river.

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you packed a lifetime of love into your time together. Thinking of you.

Happy anniversary Op 💐

How utterly heartbreaking.
Happy anniversary OP, your day sounds a perfect way to honour and remember him. Your DH sounds lovely, life can be so cruel.

It was recently my wedding anniversary, 15 years since we got married but the first anniversary since he died. It was hard because, unlike birthdays etc, a wedding anniversary is something that only the two of us celebrated. I didn’t know what to do with the day without him and it emphasised all the memories that now no one else remembers. I cried in the supermarket, buying myself some flowers that were similar to my wedding flowers and a song was playing that I had never heard before that kept going on about “loving you forever.” I guess other people don’t know what to say so don’t acknowledge it.
I am glad you got to spend the day sharing your happy memories, but I am so sorry you didn’t get longer together to make more memories. Everyday is really hard as a widow (though I am told it gets easier in time) but days like today hit especially hard.

Happy happy happy anniversary lovely.. YOU WERE LOVED !! What else can we ask for ? xx

Happy anniversary!!

thinking of you, I am so sorry for your loss xxx

Gosh - a year already!

Happy Anniversary

Happy Anniversary @bloodywhitecat. Sending you ENORMOUS hugs. 🌹

Happy anniversary @bloodywhitecat
I'm so sorry for all you've been through (I followed your & DH journey on your threads).

I hope you've been able to think about happy memories today. 💞

So sorry to read this. Wishing you well OP. Grief and grieving are a part of life. You just learn to live with it don't you.
Sending big cyber hugs