To cancel at very, very short notice?

[Crunchymum]

Friend and I due to go to a ticketed event this evening. Plan is to meet at 6pm.

I've been feeling "not quite right" since yesterday but I'm now feeling cold, nauseous and have a really sore neck I've done an LFT (negative) but other than water and a few oatcakes I've not wanted to eat all day.

What do I do?

• cancel now and see if friend can take someone else
• see how I feel after a shower and try some lunch
• ride it out and go along later.

I am 99% sure it's my medication making me feel this way. I get like this every now and then. No-one else is poorly

(I mention sore neck as for some reason my neck is always the place I get pain in when I'm having one of these days!)

It's a really good friend and whilst she'd be disappointed, I know she'd understand. I'd of course reimburse her for the tickets (plan was I get dinner as she got the tickets, but I can't face the thought of food at this moment)

Hate letting people down as we've both had to sort childcare etc and she may not have anyone available to take my place.

Tell her now, see if she can find anyone else. If not, paracetamol up and go with her.
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I’d also tell her now to see if she can find someone else.

As long as you don’t do this regularly, and she’s a decent person she’ll be disappointed but understanding

She's tied up until 3pm but I've messaged her to call me. I'm all drugged up (I take medication, including daily paracetamol, for arthritis and sometimes it's the medication that makes me poorly. Hoping it's that!)

Phone your friend and say what you've just said on here.
Give her the option of taking someone else( although I'd still offer to pay for ticket to make that easier) and if she can't find someone hope you will feel better later.
It's very disappointing but these things can't be helped, would it be easier to manage if you didn't go out to dinner first?

We barely get to go out and this is something I really want to attend but I just don't feel well. Hate my stupid body.

Gonna have a shower and some food as I can't get in touch with her until 3pm (forgot about that when I first posted)

I would phone her and tell her how you’re feeling at the moment. You can’t know how you will be in a few hours time, so you can give her the opportunity to go with someone else, or a heads up that you might not be able to come, if you don’t feel any better. Does the event mean travelling any distance?
Also, it probably isn’t Covid, but one clear lft when you’re feeling grotty, doesn’t necessarily mean a 2nd, the day after, won’t be positive, as I learnt last week!

It’s not your fault! If you were my friend I would understand, just be honest. She’ll know you’re not doing it on purpose x